| Re: sacred or social?
Hmmm. I think sex has become just like shaking hand to many people. But with that said, one can still decide... even after making mistakes.... to go back to keeping sex sacred, intimate, and special. Infact, I think (speaking from my own experience) that you dont fully learn to appreciate that sacredness. Unless you've already allowed some one to dissrespect it. Once you make mistakes.... you can truely learn to stop be careless, and start respecting the most beautiful part of you.
I have certainly had my moments when I didnt care what (or who) I was doing. 2 kids later... I have decided to hold off on sex. its been over 3 years and I've only had sex once.
And even that one time proved to be a mistake (someone I loved, didn't love me back). But... holding out made me value myself so much more. It used to be fairly easy for men get what they were after from me. Now, Im so protective... I worry I push away what may be potential love.
I just bank on that feeling you get, when you know its right. And I try to remember....A good person who REALLY loves you.... will wait as along as it takes. |