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Originally Posted by BrokenLover101  I have avoided this thread for certain reasons that I'd rather not discuss but i felt like I should at least look at it and This caught my attention...
Sometimes we are afraid of the outcomes of telling someone. One can be put in worse danger for telling. There are reasons behind people not telling, just like there are reasons for bottling it up. I've had over 8 tharapists and the only one I talked to was taken from me by the court because they didn't like what she was telling them. They wanted to hear that i was all perfect and unaffected and I wasn't. She wouldn't tell them it because it wasn't true. It was the only one I talked to and eventually they gave up on trying to get to me to go into counsling. My family blamed me for what happened. Said I seduced them and it was all my fault. It's the reason why it took me so long to say anything the last time. I knew they would blame me again and what's the point in telling someone if they're going to say it's your fault? I don't bottle it up, well okay, i do but I tell those who are closest to me. If that isn't good enough... I'm sorry. |
Well we may not know exactly what happened or know you well enough but I dont believe that it was your fault. As for taking away the counsler because they were not telling you what they wanted them to well thats just stupid. Another reason why they think its your fault is because they dont want to face the fact that what ever happened was forced against your will because its difficult for them to believe such an event happened to you.
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Originally Posted by IDAITAI I think that as long as you tell somebody then that is taking a step toward helping yourself. I mean of course its gonna be one of those things that you dont want to talk about but you really should and i think thats its very brave to be able to talk about it because most people probably would just keep it bottled up inside and eventaully go crazy. |
I must agree with that all the way. No matter what people think or say it must be brought up and talked about as it will help you to get a hold on things and life before something else happenes.