Thread: Ending a relationship

If you're trying end a relationship the "humane" way with a control freak, the only way to do it is by a swift kick in jewls. either that or work out the fact that they are controlling and if that won't change then she'll have to end it. being in that sort of washy relationship its either....... shape up or ship out!

As for ending it, from what i can tell, it's probably better to play it by ear,
If you're ending it because of obvious complications (like controling and other negative things like that) its best to just end it ASAP by any means. Unless you're wanting to smooth it our first.

if you just want to be friends, take the normal and sane way by doing it in person.


word!

Face to face is always the best method, as you can look the person straight in the eye and see as much as you feel.

This may not be an easy way, but it is truly the best.

I would also say face-to-face but that depends on the situation/connection between the two of you. For some, its too painful to see them face-to-face because they cheated on you. For something like that I think its best to just break contact with them completely. Why talk to someone who can easily hurt and think they still have a chance when they ruined your life?

I've been dumped in all lazy ways and never really face-to-face. I've been dumped by text, and over IM (who called me to get me back and I told him to leave me and never speak to me again). No one has had the decency to dump me face-to-face, which is the main reason I don't even talk to my ex's at all.

there is no good way to end it. but remember, there is no way to make them feel better, but you can make them feel worse. do it face to face, and dont make it seem like a nice evening. subtly do things to foreshadow, dont be rude, and if they start yelling dont argue. it is hard to still be friends, but its worth a shot.

I think that ”Face to face” as every one said but is the hardest way to end a relationship. It is also the hardest way to take that end. The courage that comes from looking someone in the eye while telling them that it is over will help the other person find closure and it is the right thing to do ...

Face-to-face is always the best. Anything short of that is cowardly and selfish. But then again, when it comes to breaking up, one must always have a valid reason to do so (such as "You might not hear from me again, I'm joining the army" or "I have Huntington's, and staying together will only cause you more pain"), and apologize even though the reason behind the breaking up is legitimate.

BTW, that "It's not you, it's me" shtick is not a legitimate reason, and should never be considered as such. It's simply too vague. Not that the "me" is under the gun for shortcomings of any sort, but it could be inferred that the "it's me" part is simply because he wanted to, or that it's his fault for having begun the relationship in the first place because he just realized he wanted to shack up with someone else after all.

If a person uses that "excuse" to mask a selfish motive, let him or her be anathema.

Yes, just like most of you said, I do think it depends on the relationship you have with them.

Like, some people couldn't bear the thought of having a face-to-face confrontation with the other person, some people just go ahead and tell them straight to their face that it's over, and some people just txt it and don't talk ever again.

I say it's just how strong of a relationship you ahve and the kind of person you are.