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Reply With Quotewell...after reading this i fill sad a little but with dilling with a loss i would just try to smile
How do you deal with loss?
We all have to do it at one point in time in our lives. Someone dies, or someone you love
leaves you behind. Or maybe your house was broken in to and all your kick ass games are gone.
Any kind of loss that affects your everyday living habits. How do you deal?
Me, personally, it depends on what I've lost. I've had my house broken in to and both my brother's
and my games were all stolen. A PS2, Laptop, all my mom's expensive clothes... Gone! I snapped--I was the
first one home--I called the cops and cussed them out when they took too long to get moving, LOL.
My mom was all zen about it saying, "Oh well, good thing for homeowners insurance!"
With relationships and family members, it's quite different. I lost a brother to violence and it was
one of the biggest losses in my life. I still don't quite know how to deal with it, so I take it out
on the hood. "Thugs" and "Gangsters" took my brother from this realm, so on occasion, I find myself
hating on those types of folk, and the neighborhood in general. I've also lost the closest person to me.
She's still alive, and we still talk, but she's no longer my lover. And I don't know if I'll ever deal
with that loss either...
How do you all deal with your losses?
well...after reading this i fill sad a little but with dilling with a loss i would just try to smile
Just two of my Favorite Quotes ;D
Tao Le Ching: "It is only by not trusting that you turn someone into a liar."
George Carlin:"If you can't beat them, arrange to have them beaten."
Yeah, but if houses were built on smiles, we'd all be homeless because they'd blow away with the wind.Originally Posted by dlightey
I try to keep my self busy and or at least distracted while trying to convince myself that I'm fine. Eventually either I get unbusy and realize I'm not and try to find more productive methods....or I get to being alright.
Sometimes I just get pissed off and numb. That's just not healthy though and I don't recomend it.
You never really loved me/You never really cared/It was all just a game to boost your ego/Those feelings never really there/ I'm filing emotional bankruptcy/My heart can take no more debt/Theres no more "money" there to spend. === Besides tee hee SHE loves me!
Prayer and meditation helps. I admit that there are times when I internalize all of my problems, don't allow myself time to grieve properly, and end up imploding, but prayer and meditation really helps.
Yeah, you and I are two peas in a pod. I do the same thing. Anything to keep my mind busy and occupied. But eventually, s*** hits the fan again and it's back to square one.
I dunno about prayer--not really a religious man--but meditation really helps. I don't do it as often as I used to, but when I do, it takes a good load of negative chi off my shoulders.
Meditation
Does.
NOT
Work for me.
It is IMPOSSIBLE for me to quiet all the thoughts in my mind. Dead serious for real. I've tried a lot. A lotta times and ways and places and situations and all that. I end up sitting there comfortibly worring the SHIT out of myself.
We really need to find better ways to deal with things then pushing them away though. This whole bottling thing is unhealthy. I'm going to explode.
You never really loved me/You never really cared/It was all just a game to boost your ego/Those feelings never really there/ I'm filing emotional bankruptcy/My heart can take no more debt/Theres no more "money" there to spend. === Besides tee hee SHE loves me!
You call it bottling, I call it building a wall. Either way, it's no good. Eventually dams break and valleys flood and we don't want that now, do we?
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