Thread: How do you forget someone?

I donno maybe it's just me but I've never EVER had the ability to forget about anyone. Every single person that has impacted me positively or negetively. Every SINGLE person i've had strong feelings for, anyone I loved, anyone I invested MYSELF in, is still here. THey linger with me ALWAYS. I never entierly let go of my feelings for someone either. I wish I knew how though because it would make it a lot easier to deal with the pain they caused

it's great to treasure them in your heart but with pain??...for me, I just can't but I do...
You can forget a someone if you really want to but the more you have feelings for that person, the more it gets harder to forget that person...well, that's based on my experience...it just takes time...tnx 4 sharing bratling ^_^

Originally Posted by pink_hana

it's great to treasure them in your heart but with pain??...for me, I just can't but I do...
You can forget a someone if you really want to but the more you have feelings for that person, the more it gets harder to forget that person...well, that's based on my experience...it just takes time...tnx 4 sharing bratling ^_^

It's not like...treasuring them. Especially because of the pain. I wish I knew how not to. But it's not like....an option. I can't control the way I feel, only the way I react to it. I can't forget someone, trust me I've tried my damndest to forget a number of people and situations that have gone on. It's been a long time. The lover-type relationships that come to mind when I think about this are from almost ten years ago now. The friendship situations are some smaller some longer then that. I don't forget anyone. I don't forget ANY emotional impact. I don't forgive and forget either. I can't help but hold on to the knowlage I have.

To be honest I don't forget. I just try to erase that part of my life and go on. I won't lie, I hold grudges but once I get over it I pretty much forget. Try to get along with the person as best you can without being ridiculous and go on with life.

Originally Posted by bratling

I donno maybe it's just me but I've never EVER had the ability to forget about anyone. Every single person that has impacted me positively or negetively. Every SINGLE person i've had strong feelings for, anyone I loved, anyone I invested MYSELF in, is still here. THey linger with me ALWAYS. I never entierly let go of my feelings for someone either. I wish I knew how though because it would make it a lot easier to deal with the pain they caused

Agreed. It's pointless to try and make yourself forget someone who's had a deep impact in your life. That's like goin' without oxygen. It sucks on those long, hard days of depression, but on the brighter side of things, the people we meet, become close to and share experiences with makes us better people; having learned from experience and learning new ways--from said loved one--of dealing with problems you weren't able to deal with before.

Even the people I had relationships with that ended badly, I can't forget them, because they've made an impact in my life. Even the ones that are extremely hard to get along with, or the ones that have had negative affects in your life; you can't forget. They can dissapear, but you'll never forget, because people trade small portions of themselves when they're together and keep those small bits for the rest of their lives.

Originally Posted by atomik_sprout

Agreed. It's pointless to try and make yourself forget someone who's had a deep impact in your life. That's like goin' without oxygen. It sucks on those long, hard days of depression, but on the brighter side of things, the people we meet, become close to and share experiences with makes us better people; having learned from experience and learning new ways--from said loved one--of dealing with problems you weren't able to deal with before.

Even the people I had relationships with that ended badly, I can't forget them, because they've made an impact in my life. Even the ones that are extremely hard to get along with, or the ones that have had negative affects in your life; you can't forget. They can dissapear, but you'll never forget, because people trade small portions of themselves when they're together and keep those small bits for the rest of their lives.

Exactly, and I intentionally give SO much of myself into my relationships. Be it lovers, friends, or family, they get as much of me as I can spare, and often then some. So it's quite impossible to think I could pack it all back up and bring it with me when I leave. It's like going to summer camp. You pack everything adn you aquire nothing and yet when it's time to go home you can't roll your sleeping bag even though you did it EXACTLY the way mom did, and half your stuff won't fit back in your bag.

humm...I guess you never forget, what really happen is the pain starts to fade away with time and we start to look things diferently and time replace time and things starts to replace things and we start to "live again" but we never forget...