From Lovers to Friends

abc · Apr 24, 2008, 06:42 AM

For the people who have went through tough, twisted relationships and lived to tell the tale.
nothing is more confusing, when a couple has been together for soo long, they realise that the relationship between them is not working out and they break up.
But somehow they've managed to move on and become friends.
That's what i dont get. After they've been through a really tough relationship, they break up, but they still have the strength to be "just friends"?
That's the question i want to ask the people of AO
After you broke up with somebody, considering what broke y'all up and the things y'all went through together, Do you still want to make the transistion from lovers to friends?
Or shall the pain be too great and would you part ways forever?

Aleister Sithis · Apr 24, 2008, 03:17 PM

Actually, all except my first relationship, they all went from "Lovers" to "Really close friends". Honestly everyone who I broken (Or I should say broke up with me) up with, we've became better friends. I say if it doesn't work hold no grudges and try to become friends. However, that's just my opinion.

PhoenixSara · Apr 24, 2008, 03:20 PM

well we ended up being very good friends now, i mean if both of you agree on becoming friends but if it is not worth it in your mind and you think the hurt is too much then friendship should not be forced.

Eria · Apr 24, 2008, 03:28 PM

My ex and I went through a lot and had a long relationship with many heartbreaking moments but now we are the best of friends. We both matured and realized that we weren't good for each other, it was such a load off that we laughed about how obvious a solution it was and have been close friends ever since.

With that being said my ex before that didn't go as well. We still don't talk much to this day. I think a lot has to do with how mature the two people involved are. When I was young and stupid I did stupid and immature things and so did he.

PhoenixSara · Apr 24, 2008, 04:15 PM

The only time i can think of when a girl can't be friends with a guy after a break up is if she was a battered girlfriend or something. >> don't know about the others but that is the only time i can think off not being friends with an ex.

cantsenditback · Apr 24, 2008, 04:37 PM

I would. If we can still each other on a regular base as friends and hang out with other friends who woulden't be friends with your ex, unless they do somthing to show it into your face then no

!The GunGrave of Trigun · Apr 24, 2008, 05:31 PM

Yes but then it really means something because you both love each other and you know them and they know you and i think these turn out to be good relationships.

crimson · Apr 25, 2008, 12:33 AM

almost all te ime, it would depend on the reason for the break up... cheating would automatically mean that you will not become friends any time soon... but most often, it's a hard transition.

when considering everything else, the transition from lovers to friends always requires at least one side to fully understand the situation and still come up with open arms to embrace the truth that they might really be better off as friends... once one person does, the outcome of the relationship totally depends on him/her (depends on who figures this out first).

she should still say hi or hello, still make the person feel like nothing grave was lost in the relationship, that the experience in itself was too good to just bury into the ground, and that no matter what happens, lovers or not, he/she will be there for her/him whenever he/shee needs him/her...

it's in this suble way of showing that you still care, and that you still love him/her (as a friend of course), will the relationship still work out, be repaird and be rebuilt into friendship...

i don't really know, but i haven't lost a single friend because of love...

this thing also applies to people wo ged rejected by their love (although often, it's up to the one who rejected to keep the friendship going).

Astaroth · Apr 25, 2008, 07:43 AM

In my opinion, it all depends on the situation
If the break-up was peaceful without any extra drama and no one got serious then there is a very good chance that the guy and the girl will become very close friends because they were able to handle a situation in a very mature way and they see that now they are even closer
But if the break-up was bad and there was drama and friends went against friends and people who were involved should not even have been there...then most of the time the guy and the girl become enemies and things will even go further down from there because now they will rely on their friends and tell them their different stories and it is just going to be a huge mess

PhoenixSara · Apr 25, 2008, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Astaroth

In my opinion, it all depends on the situation
If the break-up was peaceful without any extra drama and no one got serious then there is a very good chance that the guy and the girl will become very close friends because they were able to handle a situation in a very mature way and they see that now they are even closer
But if the break-up was bad and there was drama and friends went against friends and people who were involved should not even have been there...then most of the time the guy and the girl become enemies and things will even go further down from there because now they will rely on their friends and tell them their different stories and it is just going to be a huge mess

This is correct and it really depends on the situation surrounding the break up in the first place.

LichGRIFFIN · Apr 25, 2008, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxy

For the people who have went through tough, twisted relationships and lived to tell the tale.
nothing is more confusing, when a couple has been together for soo long, they realise that the relationship between them is not working out and they break up.
But somehow they've managed to move on and become friends.
That's what i dont get. After they've been through a really tough relationship, they break up, but they still have the strength to be "just friends"?
That's the question i want to ask the people of AO
After you broke up with somebody, considering what broke y'all up and the things y'all went through together, Do you still want to make the transistion from lovers to friends?
Or shall the pain be too great and would you part ways forever?

I think not only that a lover can normally turn to a friend but also i think a former lover would be even better than a normal friend unless he/she of the grudgy-type ,then i guess we can't help it

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abc Newbie Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: In a place of bliss and love is blind Posts: 89 Thanks: 12 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts Credits: 4,542	From Lovers to Friends For the people who have went through tough, twisted relationships and lived to tell the tale. nothing is more confusing, when a couple has been together for soo long, they realise that the relationship between them is not working out and they break up. But somehow they've managed to move on and become friends. That's what i dont get. After they've been through a really tough relationship, they break up, but they still have the strength to be "just friends"? That's the question i want to ask the people of AO After you broke up with somebody, considering what broke y'all up and the things y'all went through together, Do you still want to make the transistion from lovers to friends? Or shall the pain be too great and would you part ways forever?
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Aleister Sithis Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Sadly, Michigan Posts: 368 Thanks: 0 Thanked 16 Times in 16 Posts Credits: 18,083	Re: From Lovers to Friends Actually, all except my first relationship, they all went from "Lovers" to "Really close friends". Honestly everyone who I broken (Or I should say broke up with me) up with, we've became better friends. I say if it doesn't work hold no grudges and try to become friends. However, that's just my opinion. __________________ "WHERE DO GET CONDOMS?!!?!" "WHAT'S A CONDOM?!"
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PhoenixSara Upcoming Legend Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: The deepest Abyss of the Ocean Posts: 578 Thanks: 22 Thanked 21 Times in 21 Posts Credits: 21,252	Re: From Lovers to Friends well we ended up being very good friends now, i mean if both of you agree on becoming friends but if it is not worth it in your mind and you think the hurt is too much then friendship should not be forced. __________________ Angels dare to go where devils don't dare to tread. Clan Rainstorm 2nd Company, Kunoichi Leader http://animalwonders.b1.jcink.com/index.php?act=idx
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Eria Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Maine Posts: 166 Thanks: 13 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts Credits: 5,740	Re: From Lovers to Friends My ex and I went through a lot and had a long relationship with many heartbreaking moments but now we are the best of friends. We both matured and realized that we weren't good for each other, it was such a load off that we laughed about how obvious a solution it was and have been close friends ever since. With that being said my ex before that didn't go as well. We still don't talk much to this day. I think a lot has to do with how mature the two people involved are. When I was young and stupid I did stupid and immature things and so did he. __________________ I'm just me.
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PhoenixSara Upcoming Legend Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: The deepest Abyss of the Ocean Posts: 578 Thanks: 22 Thanked 21 Times in 21 Posts Credits: 21,252	Re: From Lovers to Friends The only time i can think of when a girl can't be friends with a guy after a break up is if she was a battered girlfriend or something. >> don't know about the others but that is the only time i can think off not being friends with an ex. __________________ Angels dare to go where devils don't dare to tread. Clan Rainstorm 2nd Company, Kunoichi Leader http://animalwonders.b1.jcink.com/index.php?act=idx
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cantsenditback byakugan Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: France, Scotland, Ireland, Malaysia Posts: 569 Thanks: 2 Thanked 26 Times in 25 Posts Credits: 11,079	Re: From Lovers to Friends I would. If we can still each other on a regular base as friends and hang out with other friends who woulden't be friends with your ex, unless they do somthing to show it into your face then no __________________ This world is corrupt Save tonight and fight the break of dawn I am so alone, i got no one to talk to, please help me
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!The GunGrave of Trigun Banned Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Hell Posts: 1,099 Thanks: 4 Thanked 23 Times in 22 Posts Credits: 21,401	Re: From Lovers to Friends Yes but then it really means something because you both love each other and you know them and they know you and i think these turn out to be good relationships.
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crimson Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Philippines Posts: 286 Thanks: 1 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts Credits: 13,167	Re: From Lovers to Friends almost all te ime, it would depend on the reason for the break up... cheating would automatically mean that you will not become friends any time soon... but most often, it's a hard transition. when considering everything else, the transition from lovers to friends always requires at least one side to fully understand the situation and still come up with open arms to embrace the truth that they might really be better off as friends... once one person does, the outcome of the relationship totally depends on him/her (depends on who figures this out first). she should still say hi or hello, still make the person feel like nothing grave was lost in the relationship, that the experience in itself was too good to just bury into the ground, and that no matter what happens, lovers or not, he/she will be there for her/him whenever he/shee needs him/her... it's in this suble way of showing that you still care, and that you still love him/her (as a friend of course), will the relationship still work out, be repaird and be rebuilt into friendship... i don't really know, but i haven't lost a single friend because of love... this thing also applies to people wo ged rejected by their love (although often, it's up to the one who rejected to keep the friendship going). __________________ as long as i am me try thess new games i like(MMOGs): knightfight\|prisonstruggle\|ikariam
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Astaroth Chtonian Slayer Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: you really do not want to know Posts: 562 Thanks: 23 Thanked 47 Times in 45 Posts Credits: 31,306	Re: From Lovers to Friends In my opinion, it all depends on the situation If the break-up was peaceful without any extra drama and no one got serious then there is a very good chance that the guy and the girl will become very close friends because they were able to handle a situation in a very mature way and they see that now they are even closer But if the break-up was bad and there was drama and friends went against friends and people who were involved should not even have been there...then most of the time the guy and the girl become enemies and things will even go further down from there because now they will rely on their friends and tell them their different stories and it is just going to be a huge mess __________________ DO NOT MAKE ME UNLEASH MY INNER DEMON
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