equinn

well most times u forgive them because u still love them and cant see our life without them being in it even if you are JUST friends i know i have forgiven someone i don't think i should have but because i still love the F***** even though he put me through hell.yet another one in real life hurt me the same way and i don't even want him two steps near me i cant bare to even look at him ...to be honest. so it depends I'm guessing if u still love them you will forgive them and become friends but its easier if you were friends before hand also ^__^

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mahiru

My first ex was all clingy and annoying after we broke up. Even months afterward, he couldn't stand me talking to other guys. So I think that's why we didn't become friends. My second ex, well, that was just a weird, barely-friends-in-the-first-place situation to begin with, so I guess it stands to reason that, if we weren't really friends before, why would we be friends after?
My third ex is trying really hard at the moment to be friends with me, but he still really likes me and that makes things difficult. Especially because I sort of like him still. But I also sort of like my fourth ex still.
Which brings myself to my fourth ex. We were the sort that, even though we weren't dating, everyone sort of assumed we were. We thought we'd be a perfect couple. But...I broke up with him. I thought we were just too different. But he's still half holding out for me, which I think until he moves on, we won't be able to be friends again.

So... from experience... I guess I feel that you can be friends as long as your bond before was strong, and you've both moved on.

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Usually i don't mind becoming friends with the person i have been dateing for a long time, it to me doesn't hurt as much! What hurts the most for me is when the person rivals your and becomes your enemy when you had so many good memoires with them and then they hate you, because you have broken up...It's not like that in my mind i perfer friends than rivals, yes it hurts and when you see them as a friend you can't forget how they made you feel, but as everything does, you will move on and hey you never know if you are still friends they may ask you out for a date again! It's easier in school because it's only childish love but still it hurts for me to see them not smile at you when they used to hug you every second they saw you. I couldn't stand falling out with someone over a relationship it just makes the situation much worse, you shouldn't be worrying about this or thinking it's painful it's a blessing if both partners just want to be friends, yes it's irritating but to be honest with yourself what would you prefer? An animal on your back attacking and hateing you when you used to have something good, or a nice friendly smile and eases the pain as you know you have both moved on...

However! If they cheated on you i wouldn't blame you for not being friends, it would tear me apart to find someone had left me for another lad, then i would probablly fall out but not forever, lifes to short for hate. Make with what you've got and move on, besides in the end your going to not be alone for long