i'm gonna go out on a limb here and blame society. yes, it's easy and pretty obvious to blame the parents, however society just isn't the same as when we were growing up. let's face it, discipline has become extremely soft. it's not widely accepted to spank your child anymore and frankly, i believe it's the most effective way to discipline your child (please hold the hate mail lol). i mean, what sounds like a worse punishment; physical pain, or being sent to your room? children are not dumb. they know that their punishment is weak and are not afraid of it. to them, parental threats are empty. i'm not saying, go out and beat your child senseless, or anything in that matter. i'm simply saying that it's pretty obvious that kids have been getting ruder and ruder as the generations progress and the only thing that has changed really, is the severeness of their discipline.
back when my grandparents were growing up, it was ok to spank or scold someone else's child. if anyone did that nowadays, they would easily find themselves in a courtroom. you can't even tell parents when their child has done something wrong because they either won't believe it, or they will take offense to it. because of this, children are free to do as they please in the absence of their parents because they know they will not suffer any consequences unless their parents themselves catch them in whatever "bad" act they take part in. this is especially evident in the classroom. how many people have seen children fail classes, but suffer no repercussions? in many cases, instead of receiving punishment, their irate parents complain to the teacher and in some cases the principle, blaming the teacher for giving their child an F for no reason. it seems that these parents don't even consider the fact that their child simply did not do their homework and instead of punishing their child, they fight for a grade their child did not deserve, while looking like an idiot in the process.
it may seem like i'm bashing parents too hard, but i'm not. i'm simply pointing out that all of these actions have come to be widely accepted in our society and actions that our grandparents took to discipline children are frowned down upon and in many cases considered illegal. therefore, that makes it much harder for parents to choose "nature over nurture" especially in public places where they would be looked down upon by others.