Thread: Rude children

i'm gonna go out on a limb here and blame society. yes, it's easy and pretty obvious to blame the parents, however society just isn't the same as when we were growing up. let's face it, discipline has become extremely soft. it's not widely accepted to spank your child anymore and frankly, i believe it's the most effective way to discipline your child (please hold the hate mail lol). i mean, what sounds like a worse punishment; physical pain, or being sent to your room? children are not dumb. they know that their punishment is weak and are not afraid of it. to them, parental threats are empty. i'm not saying, go out and beat your child senseless, or anything in that matter. i'm simply saying that it's pretty obvious that kids have been getting ruder and ruder as the generations progress and the only thing that has changed really, is the severeness of their discipline.

back when my grandparents were growing up, it was ok to spank or scold someone else's child. if anyone did that nowadays, they would easily find themselves in a courtroom. you can't even tell parents when their child has done something wrong because they either won't believe it, or they will take offense to it. because of this, children are free to do as they please in the absence of their parents because they know they will not suffer any consequences unless their parents themselves catch them in whatever "bad" act they take part in. this is especially evident in the classroom. how many people have seen children fail classes, but suffer no repercussions? in many cases, instead of receiving punishment, their irate parents complain to the teacher and in some cases the principle, blaming the teacher for giving their child an F for no reason. it seems that these parents don't even consider the fact that their child simply did not do their homework and instead of punishing their child, they fight for a grade their child did not deserve, while looking like an idiot in the process.

it may seem like i'm bashing parents too hard, but i'm not. i'm simply pointing out that all of these actions have come to be widely accepted in our society and actions that our grandparents took to discipline children are frowned down upon and in many cases considered illegal. therefore, that makes it much harder for parents to choose "nature over nurture" especially in public places where they would be looked down upon by others.

Originally Posted by ryomakurosaki

Alright I have a job to work with children to help them to be better in school. I am a tutor/teacher and I like the place I work but the children I am teaching some of them are so rude!
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-When dealing with rude children, who do you blame?
-Explain your views.
~thank you~

I ask you to describe said rudeness because children are natural rude, they come that way. You have to teach them not to be. That is why parents laugh whenever someone goes "I love how children are so refreshingly honest. You always know what they are thinking." So without a description of said behavior their is no way to know if it is just them being kids or if you actually have some special brats on your hands. That of course leaves everyone here to just assume the worst.

after reading your oppinion Taro I agree with you...
So actually it will be 50/50...

I have seen how the society has spoiled the children too... and even through the media. The media mostly shows that the parents are the dumbest beings on earth and the children are always right and they are the heroes of the show... that is sending to the child this message: "you are smarter than your mom and dad, you can do whatever you want because what you do and think is correct. Your parents don't know."

And now is kind of "illegal" to spank the child to discipline him/her... so how do you teach the child the limits and what is correct or not? talking to them? hummm... that has show it does not work... (spanking but not mistreating the child is more effective than "sending to the room")

But I also think the final desicion is the parent's... of course in these days and times being very careful in when and how to spank the kid...
Hey! parents are not stupid.

I blame the child them selfes. The reason I say this is because most kids learn how they act from there selfs they learn what they can get away with and start doing it. So its actually the kids who learn from experince that what they do is right. The best I can tell you to do is disipline the kids till they learn. I personlly know this b\c I'm uasually rude to my teachers and I don't act like no one I know.

so one sided, but parents. if the child is learning harmful or disruptive behavior and the parents are doing nothing to control or crush it, then who else is to blame?

rude kids you really can only blame the parents and not really the t.v.
the parents should teacher thier kids to be good and they also have control of what their children are watching so i really don't blame t.v for how kids now a days turn out its all up to the parents and nothing or nobody else. thats just my piont of view.

It depends on the situation. Sometimes the child will openly rebel from the way the parents are trying to steer them. Thus they become rude, ignorant semi-members of society. However there are also times when the parents have done next to nothing to steer the moral welfare of the children and they become rude from lack of instruction. So it just depends to me.