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    Re: Should you stay in a loveless relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by NevesElocin View Post
    I have a friend that has been dating a guy she said she loves for going on eight years. However, she says she doesn't love him anymore. In fact she's
    been cheating on him lately. But she wants to stay with him becuase he
    would fall apart without her there to keep him sane. Is that fair to him? Is
    that even fair to her? I want your honest opinion.


    Ok. Lets say you've been with someone for a long time and you no longer
    feel happy with that person anymore. More like you've fallen out of love with
    them. But you know that person needs you. As in they would be unstable
    without you there to keep them in line. Or maybe they're suicidal. Would it
    be right to stay in the relationship just to act as a crutch for that person? Or
    out of pity? Or even guilt?
    Ok well I am going to give some advise from my own experience. My last boyfriend I was with for almost a year, but really I didn't love him like I thought after our first real argument after the first 3 months. From that arguement he treated me really badly and we kept going on breaks so I could get some space but the thought when through my mind "what he really do when/if we broke up???". His family knew how bad he was treating me but all I kept saying was that he can be kind some times. I only stayed with him so he wouldn't fall apart but really he was already going down the road and I was just being pushed around. So when he dumped me, I felt sad but also relieved because I could get away from his web and live my life.

    Since then I've been in a much better relationship and things are going really well. I did learn that if I was ever going to be in a relationship again, I have to make sure that I am not staying in that relationship to help keep my partner sane. Being in a relationship to save someone from falling apart isn't going to stop it. Its going to make it build up and get worse. If you don't love someone then why stay with them? You have to move on and find someone who you do really love and can't live without. Don't get stuck in a relationship where you are not happy. Your feelings are all you have to go by so follow them, don't do it for someone else's sake.
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    Re: Should you stay in a loveless relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by awesomeparty12 View Post
    sorry for snapping at you i just want people to understand anothers feelings thats all
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    Re: Should you stay in a loveless relationship?

    i don't think that anyone should stay in a loveless relationship. yeah it might hurt him alot that she doesn't love him anyone expecially if he still loves her but just think how much he'll be hurt to learn that she doesn't love him and that shes been cheating on him. thats alot worse for him. and the more time she spends with him the more it will hurt him in the end. she should just break-up with him now so he can try to start to get over her. because the longer she waits the longer it will hurt.

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    Re: Should you stay in a loveless relationship?

    If he has a lame leg and needs a crutch, it would be awkward for her to leave since he might stumble. But if he believes he could walk without a crutch, he must believe in miracles. His leg would heal and he could walk without a crutch if he practices walking without her. His leg will heal on its own and will strengthen with use. He doesn't need her. He just needs to believe in himself. If he threatens suicide then he needs counseling not a girlfriend. If she is seeing someone else, the relationship is really over. Don't waste time with pity. It's just learned helplessness. He could make it on his own if he just learns to have faith in himself and a higher power, then the blind could see, the deaf will hear, the mute will speak and the lame will walk on their own two feet. Believe!

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    Re: Should you stay in a loveless relationship?

    You really shouldn't stay in a loveless realtionship...
    It will hurt the both sides...
    Cause when the guy finds out...
    God what will he do then...
    He will be not stable when you will broke up in a way...
    That you will say to him that you don't love him anymore..
    But I think he will go more drastic when he founds out...
    Of being cheated...
    And for her...
    Will she be truly happy is she stayed with him...??
    And only stay for pity or like that...
    I think that's more harder and hurtfull...
    I think the best is to break up and go her own way...
    Maybe they can be still friends I don't know...
    Help her and tell her some of what the others say...
    Well this is mine opinion on it...
    We are affraid of losing controle...But why should you be affraid of losing it...While you didnt have it...

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    Re: Should you stay in a loveless relationship?

    Quote Originally Posted by mangalovertje View Post
    You really shouldn't stay in a loveless realtionship...
    It will hurt the both sides...
    Cause when the guy finds out...
    God what will he do then...
    He will be not stable when you will broke up in a way...
    That you will say to him that you don't love him anymore..
    But I think he will go more drastic when he founds out...
    Of being cheated...
    And for her...
    Will she be truly happy is she stayed with him...??
    And only stay for pity or like that...
    I think that's more harder and hurtfull...
    I think the best is to break up and go her own way...
    Maybe they can be still friends I don't know...
    Help her and tell her some of what the others say...
    Well this is mine opinion on it...
    i agree with her she nailed it right on the head everything she said is true
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