Kenshinzen

I'm not sure where this should go, but since its quite awkward I'm posting it here.
I have a problem. I'm cronically shy. Seriously. And now I have a bigger problem: I kind of need to get over this. Reason: I'm tempted to ask someone out (please don't start on that. Its awkward enough as is). Anyway I'm after some advice about getting over the whole shyness, cannot talk, wanting to do-a-runner (English term for: run and hide) and I'm asking you people for it.

Any help would be great. Thanks in advance.

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ice viper

I have to say that is a problem now huh. I can say that I was in your postion and still am however I am forcing myself to overcome this shy problem that I have. I would say that it's hard for me to talk to anyone in person than online. My advice is just try to overcome this and see where that step takes you and work from there. I hope this helps you out.

dark angel swordsman

I agree, it's a lot easier to talk to people online than it is to in Life. much easier. The way I see, if you think of the rewards you could obtain by him/her saying "Yes", you'll be more determined to ask and forget of the shyness. Whether or not the person says "Yes" is an entirely different thing though...Just wish for luck.

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divine_punishment

I am so shy it's not even funny. My friends can attest to this.

Loving the theatre as I do, I deal with it by pretending to be more of an extrovert. It's not easy, but I smile and laugh and speak when I have something to say.

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fireandice

You may want to try having a good friend with you to help give you the courage when you need it. Plus it tends to make things less awkward.

toonfan630

I used to be shy. My parents and teachers were getting worried. I was going to be put in Special Education because I never talked in school at all. I would stay in the corner away from anyone. I think I remember them writting down, "Stacey may have to be put into a special education program instead of a general class. She is dramatically anti-social; it may be due to the incapability to understand and obtain the english language."

Gosh, I was born in Jamaica, lol. We speak English, lol. But anyways, I wasn't put into Special Ed. Being shy sucks so you have to put yourself out there. Don't try anything stupid of course. Just start singing out loud with your friends when your walking in the hallway or something. That's one way I started to get over my shyness.

Just say and do random things in public. They laugh and stare, you feel awkward but if you have your friends around you, you'll seem confident. Works all the time. Good luck, kid.

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syd

I agree with having a friend around when you have to be push. Also when you are about to talk to the girl think about the place where you feel the must confident. Back in high school I was some what shy but when it came to soccer I felt like I was "the greatest player ever" So I always talked to the girls that played soccer. So just think positive

Oh by the way I'm still the greatest!

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Miroku4444

If your wanting to ask this girl out, do you have a sister or somebody you could practice on? This might help overcome your shyness?

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dude101

well theres the root of ur problem, ur not very experience in the ways of awkwardness.

for starters i think shyness comes around with not being able to handle awkward situation. so to help over come shyness i think u should just become more boisterous. i think saying something random out loud helps every now and then. (trust me it helps, but umm very embarrassing. but the less embarrassed u get the less shy u become.)

when it all come down to it, u gotta push urself to do things ur not use on doing. push urself out of ur own comfort zone (friends usually can help with this).

but the best trick i've ever learned to get over my own shyness is don't think, just act. and regret it later, but doing something its always better than doin nothing at all. thats the first step to conquer shyness.

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Joe Mage

Dude 101 hit the nail on the head, I know how it is for one who is real shy. I used ta b that way myself and it isn' easy. Jus' do some things that put u outta ur comfort zone, I useta work-out evryday, and lift weights, 'fore my cancer. I wasn' big, but I was cut. I had this great six-pack that I would show the ladies, I know it seems a little arrogant; but I was tryin' ta work through my own shyness at the time. My point is, that u have ta push urself through ur own shyness and in ur own way. Each of the suggestions here r all good, but none of them may work for u. So u'll haveta find ur own way, jus' work on it. There's "nothin' ta it, but ta do it."

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TetsuoShima9

I have Asperger's, so I know a lot about shyness. Try to force yourself to be around large groups of people. They may be loud, but you won't makes friends if you can't handle being around large groups of people. I don't know if you have that certain problem, but I do.