Dude 101 hit the nail on the head, I know how it is for one who is real shy. I used ta b that way myself and it isn' easy. Jus' do some things that put u outta ur comfort zone, I useta work-out evryday, and lift weights, 'fore my cancer. I wasn' big, but I was cut. I had this great six-pack that I would show the ladies, I know it seems a little arrogant; but I was tryin' ta work through my own shyness at the time. My point is, that u have ta push urself through ur own shyness and in ur own way. Each of the suggestions here r all good, but none of them may work for u. So u'll haveta find ur own way, jus' work on it. There's "nothin' ta it, but ta do it."