Thread: teachers, students

crush on a teacher is ok but falling in love with a teacher?? i think is forbidden and even I won't do that..o_O it would be freaky for me..

better fall in love to the ones you can freely love. <3 or better not fall in love at all. ^^

Originally Posted by Mitzuechan

But why is there a law?? what are they afraid of?? Or what are they trying to stop??

Laws are meant to protect your rights and more specifically your health and well being in your pursuit of happiness. How effective laws are is an entirely different matter.

Ignoring laws, how about ethics.
It is a conflict of interest for a person who gives you grades to also engage in a certain relationship with you.
And while I don't always agree with this for the most part kids anywhere from preteen age to 21 are still in a rather awkward stage of development that is not condusive to having a relationship of that magnitude with their teacher.
It would be highly unethical for your instructor to then basically take advantage of you during a time when you're not fully capable of making those sorts of decisions.
(But yeah I do know there are some teens that can handle this sorta pressure and I am aware that teachers even at the college level do date students but . . . they tread a very thin and dangerous line.)

And while I don't always agree with this for the most part kids anywhere from preteen age to 21 are still in a rather awkward stage of development that is not conducive to having a relationship of that magnitude with their teacher.

Well on a whole alot of what you said is true, but not all. Some at say around 20 or 21 can be mature enough for that relationship. I don't think i would have been ready for marriage, but just dating and doing mature stuff would have been ok when i was that age. I knew who i was then, and really haven't changed much since then. Some said i was boring because i never liked to get wound up, and go crazy or i was too rational.

Though it would depend on what the teacher(College) wanted. If they were looking to find a sole mate and start having kids it wouldn't work. But if they were say coming off a divorce, and just wanted to date and have fun for awhile, it could work.

Originally Posted by Miroku4444

Well on a whole alot of what you said is true, but not all. Some at say around 20 or 21 can be mature enough for that relationship. I don't think i would have been ready for marriage, but just dating and doing mature stuff would have been ok when i was that age. I knew who i was then, and really haven't changed much since then. Some said i was boring because i never liked to get wound up, and go crazy or i was too rational.

Though it would depend on what the teacher(College) wanted. If they were looking to find a sole mate and start having kids it wouldn't work. But if they were say coming off a divorce, and just wanted to date and have fun for awhile, it could work.

I know that it is possible that there are people within the age of 13-21 that are capable of sustaining a relationship of that magnitude but I imagine there aren't many that actually can.
And from what I understand sometimes it boils down to gender . . . and sometimes it doesn't . . . .

When I was 16, I did have this big crush on my algebra teacher. Don't worry, it was nothing more than a crush, as older women aren't exactly my type.

But back to her... Smart, pretty, and all that. What's not to like? Problem is, she can't teach math to save her life. I got a D for math, and that was that.

And to think I liked algebra. Prior to meeting her, that is. Oh well.

It poses a problem for me only if it is a student that is also in the teachers class. Because then you have difficulty with the objectivity of grades. Could they get a good grade just because of their relationship with the teacher?