I believe we shape are own lives for the most part. If you want anything bad enough you can with enough effort make every fantasy a reality. In all sense nothing anyone else says or thinks can really affect your state of mind. If I believe dragons exist with all my mind then they do whether anyone else thinks so or not. The reason it doesn't matter is because you do not see things from their perspective but only from your own. We allow other ppl to influence our lives its a choice that we for the most part are unaware we can control. I choose the emotions that affect me and if I want I let others choose them for me but in the end its me running the stage and the puppets of this wonderful play I call life.