Would you date your friend's ex?

Kiani Haki22 · May 13, 2008, 02:22 PM

The question that lingers on most minds would you date your friend ex???

No I would not because most likely my friend probably still has feelings for the guy and I wouldn't want to do that to her.

deathscythe325 · May 13, 2008, 02:51 PM

I have asked out one of my friends exes before, but he already had another gf so he didn't mind.

Kiani Haki22 · May 13, 2008, 03:06 PM

oh kool, yeah with guys well some guys it is different. With girls they get all mad and stuff so yeah.

**LenMiyata** · May 13, 2008, 03:56 PM

Grumble Grumble Grumble

Not really a 'Debate' Forum topic... Moving to the Cyberlounge...

Naomi Vaine · May 13, 2008, 03:58 PM

I think it depends on the situation. like, what if the one that your ment to be with is a friends ex... are you gonna skip out on fate and ruin your life just to keep from hurting a friend?

Corvus · May 13, 2008, 04:12 PM

yeah but what if you think that they're the one and their not and you end up screwing up your friend's chances of getting back with her? Yeah, it happened to me. Then he broke her heart and I hated him double for it. Now he's dating some girls 7 years younger then him and he's in his early 20's annoying I think so.

On the same note. If you're cool with it make sure your friend is so that you don't end up treating them differently. And for goodness sakes don't DON'T be jealous of your friend because you think that they are a threat to your relationship.

THINGS LIKE THIS ARE USUALLY MESSY. SO yeah you gotta be careful.

I've seen both sides of that fence. I've dated a friend's ex and she was the most amazing girl ever and we're all cool with it for the most part. And then I've had someone start stabbing me in the back so that he could get at my ex (not the same) who just happened to also be one of my best friends. Causing me to lose two friends until he showed his true colors to myex and broke her heart. Now I'm friends with her, and not him. So yeah, messy messy business sometimes it's worth it (believe me I KNOW that) but if you have to be sneaky or underhanded to do it then, it's not worth it. (which should be blatantly obvious)

P.R. Princess · May 13, 2008, 04:25 PM

umm well it really dpends on the sitution. me personally i wouldn't. i see anygain out of hurting a friend over a guy specailly say its a BEST FRIEND. yea no i will screw the guy. now unless me and him met all of a sudden like 5 years later or somthing then i guess its ok. but most definatly not like right after your friend just broke up with him/her. then they would think you are the reason for the break up. so yea.

PhoenixSara · May 13, 2008, 04:59 PM

My answer is no my best friend is a guy and duh! i am not so gay lol! no offense to the orthers out there but i am straight. and even if my best friend was a girl no i want our friendship over something trivial like this to fight on.

Exoparadapsyphobia · May 13, 2008, 05:02 PM

Speaking from personal experience I would never try to become intimate with one of my friends past mates [again]. It just creates a lot of unecessary tension between you and your friend, and does a lot more harm than good most of the time. There have been situations where I've had feelings for a recently seperated girl that I knew becuase one of my friends was dating her, but held off on making an approach for the sake of avoiding a bunch of mind numbing drama and/or destroying the relationship I had with my friend.

*Legend* · May 13, 2008, 05:15 PM

Yeah sure, why not? And PR is right, it depends on the situation. I would not date a friend's ex that have wronged him big time or the other way around (since I might be used as a part of get back at my friend plan). Otherwise, given a good amount of time I say it should be fair game. And of course it is always good to ask first.

*Mr. K* · May 13, 2008, 05:20 PM

In my head once my friend "Claims him" He is not longer attractive to me in anyway. He become but a better, and all sexual or physical things I did with him before, are all put behind me.

So that just clears that up. I couldn't take a guy I wasn't sexually attracted to. Its like a bleh relationship. And I have had a lot of Bleh relationships.

May 13, 2008, 02:22 PM	#1 (permalink)
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deathscythe325 Newbie Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 7 Thanks: 0 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Credits: 523	Re: Would you date your friend ex? I have asked out one of my friends exes before, but he already had another gf so he didn't mind. __________________
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Corvus Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 285 Thanks: 11 Thanked 26 Times in 25 Posts Credits: 13,837	Re: Would you date your friend ex? yeah but what if you think that they're the one and their not and you end up screwing up your friend's chances of getting back with her? Yeah, it happened to me. Then he broke her heart and I hated him double for it. Now he's dating some girls 7 years younger then him and he's in his early 20's annoying I think so. On the same note. If you're cool with it make sure your friend is so that you don't end up treating them differently. And for goodness sakes don't DON'T be jealous of your friend because you think that they are a threat to your relationship. THINGS LIKE THIS ARE USUALLY MESSY. SO yeah you gotta be careful. I've seen both sides of that fence. I've dated a friend's ex and she was the most amazing girl ever and we're all cool with it for the most part. And then I've had someone start stabbing me in the back so that he could get at my ex (not the same) who just happened to also be one of my best friends. Causing me to lose two friends until he showed his true colors to myex and broke her heart. Now I'm friends with her, and not him. So yeah, messy messy business sometimes it's worth it (believe me I KNOW that) but if you have to be sneaky or underhanded to do it then, it's not worth it. (which should be blatantly obvious) __________________ ... and join my rebellion against time.
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P.R. Princess NalaMidnight Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Virginia Posts: 898 Thanks: 3 Thanked 17 Times in 16 Posts Credits: 14,101	Re: Would you date your friend ex? umm well it really dpends on the sitution. me personally i wouldn't. i see anygain out of hurting a friend over a guy specailly say its a BEST FRIEND. yea no i will screw the guy. now unless me and him met all of a sudden like 5 years later or somthing then i guess its ok. but most definatly not like right after your friend just broke up with him/her. then they would think you are the reason for the break up. so yea. __________________ ~GUNSLINGER~A7X=MIA~ ~ MYSPACE~AWESOME PLACE TO SAVE~ ~I give my heart and everything to my sailor~
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PhoenixSara Upcoming Legend Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: The deepest Abyss of the Ocean Posts: 578 Thanks: 22 Thanked 21 Times in 21 Posts Credits: 21,252	Re: Would you date your friend ex? My answer is no my best friend is a guy and duh! i am not so gay lol! no offense to the orthers out there but i am straight. and even if my best friend was a girl no i want our friendship over something trivial like this to fight on. __________________ Angels dare to go where devils don't dare to tread. Clan Rainstorm 2nd Company, Kunoichi Leader http://animalwonders.b1.jcink.com/index.php?act=idx
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Exoparadapsyphobia Sophist of Satire Join Date: May 2006 Location: Always where I'm not supposed to be. Posts: 529 Thanks: 1 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts Credits: 5,484	Re: Would you date your friend ex? Speaking from personal experience I would never try to become intimate with one of my friends past mates [again]. It just creates a lot of unecessary tension between you and your friend, and does a lot more harm than good most of the time. There have been situations where I've had feelings for a recently seperated girl that I knew becuase one of my friends was dating her, but held off on making an approach for the sake of avoiding a bunch of mind numbing drama and/or destroying the relationship I had with my friend. __________________
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Legend Banned Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Sharks Territory Posts: 4,458 Thanks: 37 Thanked 43 Times in 41 Posts Credits: 70,296	Re: Would you date your friend ex? Yeah sure, why not? And PR is right, it depends on the situation. I would not date a friend's ex that have wronged him big time or the other way around (since I might be used as a part of get back at my friend plan). Otherwise, given a good amount of time I say it should be fair game. And of course it is always good to ask first. __________________
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