I have to agree with you. I think you're right. You can tell who I person is by how they fight. I myself, would defend my honor. I'm not the one to pick the fight, but if I have to fight I will. I've been in situations where I've just walked away to avoid fighting, and turned back to make sure they weren't coming for a sneak attack. I guess I was a little afraid, but more or less just didn't want to have to fight when theres never a reason to fight, especially over a misunderstanding.
The thing you need to know about martial arts is that it's a skill. It's not something everyone can do, a lot of people would fail. Sure you can learn it, but only those with heart in it can learn it well. It's not about fighting. It's about being one with yourself and nature. But if you must fight, fight to win.