Thread: Sex....Before or After?

Originally Posted by kastelic4444

I think you might be alittle biased. If two ppl are in love and are happy, pre-marital sex isnt going to kill it. Unless they suck at it. XD jk jk Waiting until after marriage for sex, is no guarantee it will make the relationship work. If its true love it wont matter. I question that study, wonder if it was done by some religious organization?

Sorry no. It is a conservitive organization so there is some overlap but the studies they have done have been held up by other studies on the subject as well. For example:

Debunking Divorce Myths
"Divorce Myth 2: Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the chances of eventually divorcing.

Fact: Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have a considerably higher chance of eventually divorcing. The reasons for this are not well understood. In part, the type of people who are willing to cohabit may also be those who are more willing to divorce. There is some evidence that the act of cohabitation itself generates attitudes in people that are more conducive to divorce, for example the attitude that relationships are temporary and easily can be ended."

I found multilple references to studies on the subject with the same results. The NCFR comment on it, news articles comment on it, even a "Alternatives to Marriage" site refer to it. The only difference is that they blame the divorce rate on "couples who cohabit before marriage may have different values than couples who do not". (Oh, wait, they just agreed. Don't tell them. ) They also complained that the studies " considered only women ages 15-44".


So even if they are right the question remains, what kind of person do you want to be? What percentage chance do you want your marriage to have at succeeding? Back when I was on "the market" I studied the percentages and figured out what would give me the highest percentage chance of having a lasting marriage. I managed to figure it up to a 90% success rate, and then did it. But I have been accused of being anal. lol So far it has worked though. Personally I don't understand people who are told, if you do x there is a good chance y will happen but believe it could never happen to them. Well it happened to someone or there wouldn't be the numbers there are... and yes, it could be you.