Thread: why is it so hard?

Originally Posted by FallenAngel

they don't trust me because they dont ask me questions..... and don't tell me things... thus no trust and i have to lie.

You have this statement completely backward. Your parents probably don't trust you because they probably know you lie. Don't try to get things past them it'll just make matters worse. Open communication is always the best, but for that someone has to take the first step, but when talking fails something else has to be done. Parents have a responsibility to watch out for the welfare of their kids. In some cases it's better your kids hate you than end up on the streets or dead.

Good question - I feel that it depends on the parents and the kids ... I have good communication with my folks, so we understand each other quite well ... Even so, we still have our little fights here and there... Just remember - we're only human. We cannot, and never will be, perfect.

i think that it is neither one thing nor another, but rather a combination of many things, parents think they completely understand children, that we are not capable of deep thought, while kids think the same of their parents. ppl complain that adults are too judgemental of kids, but aren't we the same? we see an old man and immediately jump to conclusions...

Parent's don't really understand us because.the forgot how it's like to be a kid or
a teen.

Originally Posted by spike spiegel

Parent's don't really understand us because.the forgot how it's like to be a kid or a teen.

Oh, they remember. They remember it all, the good and the bad. You know when you want to go out all night on saturday, they remember what happened when they did that. In fact some of you were conceived in this very fashion. (I had my first kid at 16.) Some got arrested for various reasons. They had crushes and first loves and heart breaks just like you. And no, memories like that aren't easily forgotten. Did you ever consider that your parents might just want to save you some of the crap they endured? That they are trying to help you by teaching you from their experience. Next time they make a decision you don't like ask them why they made that choice, you may be shocked by their answer.

Hmm, well, I'm not going to make this as complicated as initially anticipated. I think it all depends on what type of people the parents and children are. I mean, I don't want to throw around the word 'open-minded', so I'll put it more like this. If one is willing to understand the other, but at the same time know that it isn't required of them to agree, then the relationship should go rather well. Parents and children aren't made to agree on all bases, neither is everyone in the word in any type of relationship.

Overall, as stated before, it all depends on the type of people they are. We don't pick our parents and they don't choose how their children will turn out to be. (although with all this technology going around... .^_^.)