How do you say No?

pigtaru · May 23, 2006, 06:57 PM

Here I have for you all a question that I've yet to find the answer to.

When a girl/boy approaches you, and whether you are friends or not, tells you that they like you, have a crush on you, is infatuated by you, and wants you all to themselves...yet...you Don't feel the same way about them...What is your response.

My Response: I often them the girls I am very flattered...but...only thinks of them as a friend....

When I say this however...I can not bear to see their faces curl up and their eyes swelling...or they make an attempt to leave the scene quickly with poor excuses...

What is a nice and comfortable way to tell someone NO. Please please, I await your responses.

mahiru · May 23, 2006, 06:58 PM

I am not very good at saying no... I smile, say "I'll think about it" and then start avoiding them ^^:; Sure they eventually get the hint but... then they usually end up disliking me >_<

michiru726 · May 23, 2006, 07:05 PM

uhm.... i just say that i admire him for mustering up the courage to tell the truth to me, since it's a really hard thing to open up your feelings for somebody... and i just tell honestly what i feel for that person, then compliment him so he wouldn't be that really hurt... ^^;;;

cerebrum · May 23, 2006, 07:05 PM

I question that has plagued my mind eversince I hit puberty, lol. Dunno..... I just go with it. ohhh.... those puppy dog eyes and that black out that hits her 4 a slight second.... *sigh*

Shu · May 23, 2006, 07:24 PM

Well, always tell the truth. Firstly, try to give a reason. Try to use the word "because" in your explaination. When we hear this word, we have an unconcious acceptance that a valid explaination will follow. This is only half the battle though.

The other half is breaking the bad news properly.

- Never use negative words in your rejection. Language is the basis of thought, and thought is extension of emotion. We can subconciously decrease a persons reaction by choosing the right words.

Words can have a great effect on emotion. Here are some examples:

1. When will you be mader, when:

a. you find out your ten year old son took the car for a joyride?

or

b.your 19 year old son took the car out for a joyride 9 years ago?

2. Will you be more upset when:

Dr.A: Im sorry, you have diabetes. Everything you do, the way you eat, exercise, everything you do will change. You whole life is going to do a 180.

Dr.B: Hi, im very happy you came in when you did. Alll your tests are fine, exept we discovered you have a small blood disorder, well the technical term is diabetes. You will have to make some small changes, but your life will remain normal.

Now lets look at a situation which you reffered to.

We obviously want the boy/girl to react calm and not get upset, so we try to break the news to them as delicate as possible.

here are some wrong choices:

1. Act all weird and quiet. This will make the person feel they have creeped you out, and will be regretting their decision, and will be reluctant to approach another peron.

2.never lie. you will eventually get caught and you will have to lie to get out of it, and eventually the whole thing will fall apart.

here are some right choices:

1. tell her/him no, you are sorry. you already like someone else(or other true excuse, like u just got out of a relationship)(only say if true).

2. tell her/him no, you dont think of them that way and you dont want to sacrifice your freindship.

3. if they arent your freind, tell them you dont know them well enough.

hope this helped^^

TalentedDavid · May 23, 2006, 07:34 PM

Well if it was me i'd do this:

and say "BACK OFF!"

JOKES!!!!! LOL XD
It simple. Just say "no". Yeah it sounds as if your an ass, but hey it works.

AniManga Hound · May 23, 2006, 07:38 PM

I find that the best way is to start to say that you feel that same way about them, then freeze, collapse into a convulsing bal, and start spazzing out on the ground...

TalentedDavid · May 23, 2006, 07:41 PM

lol...........................

AniManga Hound · May 23, 2006, 07:44 PM

Haha, I know. Anyway, why do you all need to know? You're anime geeks! You WISH people hit on you, you otakus!

Hehe =^.^=

TalentedDavid · May 23, 2006, 07:46 PM

Im no otaku, i have a good life with girls, drawing, school, basketball and soccer

*Ragn0r0x* · May 23, 2006, 08:53 PM

I think a simple Im not interested in you like you are to me. Lets just be friends. THen give a thumbs up

May 23, 2006, 06:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
pigtaru Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Elk Grove, CA USA Posts: 397 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Credits: 171	How do you say No? Here I have for you all a question that I've yet to find the answer to. When a girl/boy approaches you, and whether you are friends or not, tells you that they like you, have a crush on you, is infatuated by you, and wants you all to themselves...yet...you Don't feel the same way about them...What is your response. My Response: I often them the girls I am very flattered...but...only thinks of them as a friend.... When I say this however...I can not bear to see their faces curl up and their eyes swelling...or they make an attempt to leave the scene quickly with poor excuses... What is a nice and comfortable way to tell someone NO. Please please, I await your responses. __________________ o~Piggy-san~o
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mahiru Wo chao xi huan ni Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: USA Posts: 767 Thanks: 0 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts Credits: 4,252	Re: How do you say No? I am not very good at saying no... I smile, say "I'll think about it" and then start avoiding them ^^:; Sure they eventually get the hint but... then they usually end up disliking me >_< __________________ Wo shi zhen zhen zhen xi huan ni... Thank you Equinn!! ^-^
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michiru726 Newbie Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: 180 degrees parallel to my monitor Posts: 97 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 657	Re: How do you say No? uhm.... i just say that i admire him for mustering up the courage to tell the truth to me, since it's a really hard thing to open up your feelings for somebody... and i just tell honestly what i feel for that person, then compliment him so he wouldn't be that really hurt... ^^;;; __________________ "Deviously Revamped."
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cerebrum Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Some part of the universe. Posts: 295 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Credits: 877	Re: How do you say No? I question that has plagued my mind eversince I hit puberty, lol. Dunno..... I just go with it. ohhh.... those puppy dog eyes and that black out that hits her 4 a slight second.... sigh __________________ Sig courtesy goes to : Sazuka. [Sig team]
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Shu Upcoming Legend Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 563 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Credits: 749	Re: How do you say No? Well, always tell the truth. Firstly, try to give a reason. Try to use the word "because" in your explaination. When we hear this word, we have an unconcious acceptance that a valid explaination will follow. This is only half the battle though. The other half is breaking the bad news properly. - Never use negative words in your rejection. Language is the basis of thought, and thought is extension of emotion. We can subconciously decrease a persons reaction by choosing the right words. Words can have a great effect on emotion. Here are some examples: 1. When will you be mader, when: a. you find out your ten year old son took the car for a joyride? or b.your 19 year old son took the car out for a joyride 9 years ago? 2. Will you be more upset when: Dr.A: Im sorry, you have diabetes. Everything you do, the way you eat, exercise, everything you do will change. You whole life is going to do a 180. Dr.B: Hi, im very happy you came in when you did. Alll your tests are fine, exept we discovered you have a small blood disorder, well the technical term is diabetes. You will have to make some small changes, but your life will remain normal. Now lets look at a situation which you reffered to. We obviously want the boy/girl to react calm and not get upset, so we try to break the news to them as delicate as possible. here are some wrong choices: 1. Act all weird and quiet. This will make the person feel they have creeped you out, and will be regretting their decision, and will be reluctant to approach another peron. 2.never lie. you will eventually get caught and you will have to lie to get out of it, and eventually the whole thing will fall apart. here are some right choices: 1. tell her/him no, you are sorry. you already like someone else(or other true excuse, like u just got out of a relationship)(only say if true). 2. tell her/him no, you dont think of them that way and you dont want to sacrifice your freindship. 3. if they arent your freind, tell them you dont know them well enough. hope this helped^^ Last edited by Shu; May 23, 2006 at 07:29 PM.
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TalentedDavid Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Toronto,Ontario [Canada] Posts: 168 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 210	Re: How do you say No? Well if it was me i'd do this: and say "BACK OFF!" JOKES!!!!! LOL XD It simple. Just say "no". Yeah it sounds as if your an ass, but hey it works. __________________ ...Impulsive...
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AniManga Hound Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 451 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 406	Re: How do you say No? I find that the best way is to start to say that you feel that same way about them, then freeze, collapse into a convulsing bal, and start spazzing out on the ground... __________________ Keep eating so many dogs and you're bound to be Communist
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TalentedDavid Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Toronto,Ontario [Canada] Posts: 168 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 210	Re: How do you say No? lol........................... __________________ ...Impulsive...
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AniManga Hound Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 451 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 406	Re: How do you say No? Haha, I know. Anyway, why do you all need to know? You're anime geeks! You WISH people hit on you, you otakus! Hehe =^.^= __________________ Keep eating so many dogs and you're bound to be Communist
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TalentedDavid Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Toronto,Ontario [Canada] Posts: 168 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 210	Re: How do you say No? Im no otaku, i have a good life with girls, drawing, school, basketball and soccer __________________ ...Impulsive...
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Ragn0r0x Gundam Builder Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: SAn Diego Posts: 712 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 488	Re: How do you say No? I think a simple Im not interested in you like you are to me. Lets just be friends. THen give a thumbs up __________________
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