My Ex's Best friend.O_O

Tohru_Punkcess · Apr 18, 2006, 10:11 AM

Ok, hello everyone. I am sorry if im not supposed to write stuff like this here... but i need some help. ok, heres the thing... my Ex boyfriend and myself just broke up...and his best friend really likes me. I am like fallen for my ex still but i also really like his bestfriend... however, even tho his bf likes me he wont ask me out casue he doesn't know how far i went with his friend(no where actually) and he is afraid i will say no to him. Even still...however much i want to go out with the best friend...i still have strong feelings for my ex...i dont want to break their friendship apart ither. And it would be really strange to be going out with my ex's best friend espetually when they always hang out together. I don't know what to do. Lately i have been just ignoring them all because i can't handle it but its getting really tough...now one of my good friends is going out with my ex, another one of my good friends apperantly dislikes me and the other male fellow that i hang out with has a huuuuuge crush on me....(i dont like him that way at all) could someone help me? and sorry for dumping my life on you all but i need some help before i loose it. thanks alot.

Koketsu · Apr 18, 2006, 10:17 AM

i know how about sucking on a lemon.................that always helps

*Joe Mage* · Apr 18, 2006, 10:19 AM

Well, I know that ignoring it won' make the problem go away. I think u need to resolve ur feelings though before talkin' ta either one of them, however u r goin' ta run inta them eventually and it's gonna come up in time. If I were in ur situation I would resolve ta jus' be friends wit' 'em, it's better ta be friends wit' the both of 'em than ta only have one of 'em. But that's jus' my opinion.

cerebrum · Apr 18, 2006, 10:19 AM

It would seem like ur dilemma lies between the fact that u still hav a thing for ur ex.... that and ur afraid ppl may judge if u decide 2 date ur 'ex's best friend'.
Well for starters... u and ur former bf broke up. He's obviously moved on and as much as u like him, u can do nothing more 2 be with him...unless in future some event brings u both together again, but thats ur own story.
Secondly, u and ur ex's best friend, from wat u tell me r obviously really into each other. Wat prevents u from dating him, is ur afraid ppl may judge u as a result. U really shouldn't let that get 2 u. May I remind u that ur former bf and one of ur friends is dating, and noone judges neither of them for it...hopefully.

Tohru_Punkcess · Apr 18, 2006, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Koketsu

i know how about sucking on a lemon.................that always helps

*gasps* that could work!!!
*takes out a lemon and cuts it open, it squrts in eye*

OWWWWWWWWWW*runs around tearing* it burns!
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Originally Posted by Joe Mage

Well, I know that ignoring it won' make the problem go away. I think u need to resolve ur feelings though before talkin' ta either one of them, however u r goin' ta run inta them eventually and it's gonna come up in time. If I were in ur situation I would resolve ta jus' be friends wit' 'em, it's better ta be friends wit' the both of 'em than ta only have one of 'em. But that's jus' my opinion.

yeah, i know i can't keep avoiding them... that is true however... i also have tried just being friends with them both, but thats hard as well, it gets really akward sometimes as well becasue i like them both, and them the same for me.

Koketsu · Apr 18, 2006, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Tohru_Punkcess

*gasps* that could work!!!
*takes out a lemon and cuts it open, it squrts in eye*

OWWWWWWWWWW*runs around tearing* it burns!
-----------------------------Double Post Merge---------------------------------------------

yeah, i know i can't keep avoiding them... that is true however... i also have tried just being friends with them both, but thats hard as well, it gets really akward sometimes as well becasue i like them both, and them the same for me.

u are a poor lost little child*shakes head*

Tohru_Punkcess · Apr 18, 2006, 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by cerebrum

It would seem like ur dilemma lies between the fact that u still hav a thing for ur ex.... that and ur afraid ppl may judge if u decide 2 date ur 'ex's best friend'.
Well for starters... u and ur former bf broke up. He's obviously moved on and as much as u like him, u can do nothing more 2 be with him...unless in future some event brings u both together again, but thats ur own story.
Secondly, u and ur ex's best friend, from wat u tell me r obviously really into each other. Wat prevents u from dating him, is ur afraid ppl may judge u as a result. U really shouldn't let that get 2 u. May I remind u that ur former bf and one of ur friends is dating, and noone judges neither of them for it...hopefully.

Yes exactly, He has moved on from me to another girl that he likes and From everyone i know he apperantly still likes me...which is making me hang on to him. Even tho im the one who broke up with him(long story) and yeah we are totaly into eachother and i guess i am a bit afraid of how people will judge me but my main problem is how i am going to judge myself... i would feel like a totally horrible person for going out with someone whom i "like" when i still have such stong feeling for my ex. And i dont think anyone judges the other two... also thanks for your thoughts

*Joe Mage* · Apr 18, 2006, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Tohru_Punkcess

yeah, i know i can't keep avoiding them... that is true however... i also have tried just being friends with them both, but thats hard as well, it gets really akward sometimes as well becasue i like them both, and them the same for me.

What Cerebrum has a point too. It makes sense what he says, but what I said is what I'd do if I were in ur situation. That doesn' mean it works for evry1. If u feel compelled to date ur ex's bf, then do it. Ur ex should understand; especially if he's moved on.

alucard1950 · Apr 18, 2006, 10:33 AM

hi tohru_punkcess.i could help you on this delimma.just tell me when and i'll tell you everything that you want to know.

cerebrum · Apr 18, 2006, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Tohru_Punkcess

Yes exactly, He has moved on from me to another girl that he likes and From everyone i know he apperantly still likes me...which is making me hang on to him. Even tho im the one who broke up with him(long story) and yeah we are totaly into eachother and i guess i am a bit afraid of how people will judge me but my main problem is how i am going to judge myself... i would feel like a totally horrible person for going out with someone whom i "like" when i still have such stong feeling for my ex. And i dont think anyone judges the other two... also thanks for your thoughts

I see..... U should probably ask urself why u broke up with him in the first place. Do u really want 2 hang on to someone that u broke up with 4 whatever reason?
Also keep in mind he is no longer available.

swordfish3 · Apr 18, 2006, 10:40 AM

Well in a serious problem i always think it helps to put on some music that makes you feel good then make your decision then (scientists say that this music makes you choose the option that makes you happiest which is the best thing to do) but if it were me i would go out with him. because
1) To strike at my ex
2) To make myself feel good
3) Because I'll do what ever the hell i want to

Apr 18, 2006, 10:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
Tohru_Punkcess Newbie Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Canada eh Posts: 4 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 110	My Ex's Best friend.O_O Ok, hello everyone. I am sorry if im not supposed to write stuff like this here... but i need some help. ok, heres the thing... my Ex boyfriend and myself just broke up...and his best friend really likes me. I am like fallen for my ex still but i also really like his bestfriend... however, even tho his bf likes me he wont ask me out casue he doesn't know how far i went with his friend(no where actually) and he is afraid i will say no to him. Even still...however much i want to go out with the best friend...i still have strong feelings for my ex...i dont want to break their friendship apart ither. And it would be really strange to be going out with my ex's best friend espetually when they always hang out together. I don't know what to do. Lately i have been just ignoring them all because i can't handle it but its getting really tough...now one of my good friends is going out with my ex, another one of my good friends apperantly dislikes me and the other male fellow that i hang out with has a huuuuuge crush on me....(i dont like him that way at all) could someone help me? and sorry for dumping my life on you all but i need some help before i loose it. thanks alot. __________________ <-Tohru->
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Apr 18, 2006, 10:17 AM	#2 (permalink)
Koketsu Newbie Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Ontaro Posts: 41 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 639	Re: My Ex's Best friend.O_O i know how about sucking on a lemon.................that always helps
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Apr 18, 2006, 10:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
Joe Mage Mage of Eternity Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: In the end, it doesn' really matter. Posts: 876 Thanks: 26 Thanked 33 Times in 30 Posts Credits: 34,208	Re: My Ex's Best friend.O_O Well, I know that ignoring it won' make the problem go away. I think u need to resolve ur feelings though before talkin' ta either one of them, however u r goin' ta run inta them eventually and it's gonna come up in time. If I were in ur situation I would resolve ta jus' be friends wit' 'em, it's better ta be friends wit' the both of 'em than ta only have one of 'em. But that's jus' my opinion. __________________ "Believe in yourself, if in nothing else." My myspace page: www.myspace.com/joemage
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cerebrum Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Some part of the universe. Posts: 295 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Credits: 949	Re: My Ex's Best friend.O_O It would seem like ur dilemma lies between the fact that u still hav a thing for ur ex.... that and ur afraid ppl may judge if u decide 2 date ur 'ex's best friend'. Well for starters... u and ur former bf broke up. He's obviously moved on and as much as u like him, u can do nothing more 2 be with him...unless in future some event brings u both together again, but thats ur own story. Secondly, u and ur ex's best friend, from wat u tell me r obviously really into each other. Wat prevents u from dating him, is ur afraid ppl may judge u as a result. U really shouldn't let that get 2 u. May I remind u that ur former bf and one of ur friends is dating, and noone judges neither of them for it...hopefully. __________________ Sig courtesy goes to : Sazuka. [Sig team]
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alucard1950 Newbie Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: clay county(i'm gonna die) Posts: 6 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 110	Re: My Ex's Best friend.O_O hi tohru_punkcess.i could help you on this delimma.just tell me when and i'll tell you everything that you want to know.
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Apr 18, 2006, 10:40 AM	#11 (permalink)
swordfish3 ao's comrade Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: England Posts: 528 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 687	Re: My Ex's Best friend.O_O Well in a serious problem i always think it helps to put on some music that makes you feel good then make your decision then (scientists say that this music makes you choose the option that makes you happiest which is the best thing to do) but if it were me i would go out with him. because 1) To strike at my ex 2) To make myself feel good 3) Because I'll do what ever the hell i want to __________________ 92% of teens moved to rap. if u are part of the 8% that rock out every day, put this on your sig!!!! INUYASHA :\|: THIN LIZZY :\|: THIN LIZZY LIVE VIDEO
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