SasuraiHell

Riding the theme on today's children against the world.

Using violence., ...well controlled punishment. Is 'hitting' the answer in disciplining your child?.,

Being brought up in the good ol days, i think it does. my siblings and i(mostly myself) have been spanked throughout our early childhood. up until i was like 11 or so. my mother has been the iron fist in our family. its also set me straight and has literally pounded my personality to what it is today :P.

i believe it works, and should be allowed., with as much force deemed necessary. Sure there are other ways, but for repeating offenders it should be applied without hesitation XD. id also bring back the RULER/yard stick smack in the classroom., nothing like public humiliation to straighten out ones character ha.

for those of you who have children of your own, what do you think?

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koga23

Its a good thing but yet a bad thing..

For that good points for spanking.If a kid dose some thing wrong and gets spanked he/she wont do it again or thing twice before doing some thing wrong.Its happened to me ones or twice before but the one time i remember the best was when my grandmother spanked me.

I made the mistake of saying f*** you to her when i was like 5 i think.Oh boy that was one bad mistake on my part she spanked me so hard ,couldn't sit down for a while lol. But i learned my lesson extremely fast do not say that to an adult and especially to her,for i did not want that again.Allot of people that get spanked turn out all right and are not "scarred for life" which some politicians want most to believe.


As for that bad points to it, Some people take it way to far with spanking.To the point it would be called child abuse.Which "some" may think is ok to do if a kids dose wrong.In those cases the parents should be locked up promptly and with out question.

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Discipline is a very very good thing, I would do it if I ever have kids, and if he say he'll go to the authorities I'll call his/her bluff. I do not believe in caning or spanking, but discipline is the way to go. Grounding someone is useless because it doesn't get the message across.

The best solution is pain for a little kid. Where do I draw the line?? If bruises show up the next day, you've gone too far. The farthest I'll go is ruler to the hand and that's it. No chasing around the house with the handle of a feather duster. Kids are not mentally capable to understand a "talk" when they are young. Just like you can tell kids to not touch something that is steaming many times, there'll always be one time when he/she finally touches the hot item gets burn, a blister that hurts like crap, and finally they will learn not to try.

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blackrose92

well well, i wouldnt say its the best kind of punishment. but when i was growing up it certainly worked for me. even though i didnt get hit very often the message from my parents were very clear.^^ lol

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tsurara

I don't know if it's "the answer", but it's definately an option. As long as you aren't beating your child or doing them permanant injury, a good slap to the backside is a fairly good deterrant. Kids these days are spoiled. We can't always bribe our kids just to get them to be decent human beings or do the things they should be doing ANYWAY. Positive reinforcement is lovely once in awhile... but every interaction with your child shouldn't have to be a negotiation or a buy-out.

My kids aren't going to get promised toys if they behave. They're going to be disciplined if they don't (be that spanking, having toys taken away, being sent to their rooms, etc).

I was spanked... I turned out okay (at least, I hope so)

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blackrose92

a "good slap"? more than a good slap maybe being hit with a stick or something. but a good slap? lol. i know i dont have kids cuz im way to young anyway but if i learned anything when i was "spanked" a good slap just doesn't always cut it.

"kids these days are spoiled" i would have to disagree. not all kids and its usually the parents who spoil their kids which makes them spoiled. and its not necessary to 'bribe' to do the right thing. they should want to do it. not saying that was not what you meant, i was just pointing it out. ^^

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gren

Agreed. Parents should be prepping their children to become productive members of society; in the real world, you don't get rewarded for obeying the law, but you will be punished if you're caught breaking it.

When I was growing up, if I did something wrong, I was punished for it. A spanking, grounding, whatever was appropriate for my age and the offense. A small child doesn't understand or won't remember the logic behind why he/she shouldn't do something, but can easily understand the pain of a spanking, and will keep that in mind for the future.

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Lasura

I too think it works, tough a mum that is just very stict and has shouted at you since early childhoot and said what's right and wrong and thought of very clever punnishments appart from hitting (like they left me at home alone bored to death a couple of times), you don't need any hitting because children act good anyways. The main thing is to never let children step on your head (like i always do and end up with them following me everywhere and making me do and tell all kinds of things)

A little spank on the but is nothing that bad, it's bad if parents really, really hit children.... That is crazy to forbid it because children sometimes really are nasty little beings. But they lear from one time....

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aceman67

Beating a child? No, but there are some instances where I do approve of it. Giving a kid a swat on the ass for reaching for a boiling pot of water on the stove or catching them just before they run out onto the street for example.

Let me ask the people in this thread this: Have you ever had the opportunity to even have your hand in raising a child? Baby sitting doesn't count. Until that happens, your opinions are effectively moot, because you don't know what its like.

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Sazzy

I was agree with Tsurara as I wouldn't spank the child unless it was really really needed. It would be a last resort for me. I would rather take away their privileges, send them to their room and give then a good shouting at.

I know that others will be see spanking or hitting their child as a sure way to let the child know they did something wrong but for me it will always be a last resort as if used too much if could cause some damage mentally within the child. I don't want the child to be always scared of me as then it will be hard to ever support the child.

Aceman - I personally haven't raised my hand to a child but I have seen people do it and for some it would work but for me its not what I would do.

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Joe Mage

I can' have children myself, but I've had a hand in raisin' my niece and nephew and I'll tell u now; spankin' is sometimes necessary. Is there a limit? Yes. It's a fine line between discipline and abuse, "the devil is in the details" so ta speak. That's why whenever my siblings and I did wrong, my parents took ten and then discussed with us what it was that we did wrong 'fore they meeted out punishment. This way they were cool, calm, and collected when it came time for business and we fully understood why we were bein' punished. This doesn' work in every situation, like ur kid reachin' for a hot pot of coffee, runnin' out inta the middle of the road, etc., where quick; decisive action needs ta b taken in order ta protect the child from harm, but explainin' ta them, why u punished them, afterward is important. No matter how u look at it, raisin' children is a very difficult job; but one well worth it.

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