Thread: Child Punishment, Hitting the answer??,

I was agree with Tsurara as I wouldn't spank the child unless it was really really needed. It would be a last resort for me. I would rather take away their privileges, send them to their room and give then a good shouting at.

I know that others will be see spanking or hitting their child as a sure way to let the child know they did something wrong but for me it will always be a last resort as if used too much if could cause some damage mentally within the child. I don't want the child to be always scared of me as then it will be hard to ever support the child.

Aceman - I personally haven't raised my hand to a child but I have seen people do it and for some it would work but for me its not what I would do.

I can' have children myself, but I've had a hand in raisin' my niece and nephew and I'll tell u now; spankin' is sometimes necessary. Is there a limit? Yes. It's a fine line between discipline and abuse, "the devil is in the details" so ta speak. That's why whenever my siblings and I did wrong, my parents took ten and then discussed with us what it was that we did wrong 'fore they meeted out punishment. This way they were cool, calm, and collected when it came time for business and we fully understood why we were bein' punished. This doesn' work in every situation, like ur kid reachin' for a hot pot of coffee, runnin' out inta the middle of the road, etc., where quick; decisive action needs ta b taken in order ta protect the child from harm, but explainin' ta them, why u punished them, afterward is important. No matter how u look at it, raisin' children is a very difficult job; but one well worth it.

Originally Posted by SasuraiHell

Riding the theme on today's children against the world.

Using violence., ...well controlled punishment. Is 'hitting' the answer in disciplining your child?.,

Being brought up in the good ol days, i think it does. my siblings and i(mostly myself) have been spanked throughout our early childhood. up until i was like 11 or so. my mother has been the iron fist in our family. its also set me straight and has literally pounded my personality to what it is today :P.

i believe it works, and should be allowed., with as much force deemed necessary. Sure there are other ways, but for repeating offenders it should be applied without hesitation XD. id also bring back the RULER/yard stick smack in the classroom., nothing like public humiliation to straighten out ones character ha.

for those of you who have children of your own, what do you think?

I say whoop their a**es!! LOL! I grew up under the rule of my mom's iron fist and my dad's collection of belts! LOL. I got outta line, I got popped. Plain and simple. I believe that you shouldn't beat your kids, but nobody said not to apply the belt to rump. I don't understand most parents these days. Their kids run around here like they run the show, and they LET them. I've seen children throwing fits--and merchandise--in grocery stores and the parents just sit there like, "I don't know what to do! He's so out of control!" Take your belt off and whoop him! Use your hand, something for Christ's sake!

All of my mom's kids are generally "good" children. I'm the only one who's ever been to jail and it was for like six hours. None of us are in gangs, none of us have issues with drugs (well, I don't anymore; and weed doesn't count in my book), none of us has ever shot anyone, let alone consider it. And it's all thanks to the belt. In a way, getting my a** whooped saved my life! LOL.

Originally Posted by aceman67

...Giving a kid a swat on the ass for reaching for a boiling pot of water on the stove...

Now that's just when I wouldn't even stop a kid. He'll learn the consequences of this action soon enough.

Originally Posted by aceman67

Let me ask the people in this thread this: Have you ever had the opportunity to even have your hand in raising a child? Baby sitting doesn't count. Until that happens, your opinions are effectively moot, because you don't know what its like.

Don't know what it's like?? You might want to rethink that statement. Many of us have been on the receiving end.

Originally Posted by aceman67

Let me ask the people in this thread this: Have you ever had the opportunity to even have your hand in raising a child? Baby sitting doesn't count. Until that happens, your opinions are effectively moot, because you don't know what its like.

I thought this too, but like legend said, some of us have been on the recieving end.

I had a talk about this with my parents, I was spanked as a child and my parents looking back wish they hadn't. Their main arguement being that they were physically hurting their own child, it's not like they abused me or anything lol but for them it was the thought of inflicting pain on a child. And they regret having to resort to that.

me on the other hand, knowing the little shat I was sometimes, think it was the right thing to do XD. So there are two sides of the coins, depending if your child or not.

Originally Posted by Sazzy

I was agree with Tsurara as I wouldn't spank the child unless it was really really needed. It would be a last resort for me. I would rather take away their privileges, send them to their room and give then a good shouting at.

I know that others will be see spanking or hitting their child as a sure way to let the child know they did something wrong but for me it will always be a last resort as if used too much if could cause some damage mentally within the child. I don't want the child to be always scared of me as then it will be hard to ever support the child.

and I agree. But not being a parent, I guess I won't really know until I actually have kids. and a bit off the note, I've heard that shouting doesn't do any good either (something about showing that your in control..?)

Originally Posted by Hassun

Now that's just when I wouldn't even stop a kid. He'll learn the consequences of this action soon enough.

LOL, that's great! There's plenty of times when I'd watch my younger brother and someone will say, "Why are you letting him climb the bookshelf?" and I'd simply relply, "If he gets hurt, I bet he won't do it again the next time he's near there." Just like those kids who put forks in electrical sockets, they'll learn.

Originally Posted by Legend

Don't know what it's like?? You might want to rethink that statement. Many of us have been on the receiving end.

Plenty have been on the receiving end, but that doesn't make things right. I know that my receiving end wasn't the wrong kind of discipline, because I've never been left with marks or bruises; only a pain in the rear and a lack of wanting to sit down. LOL. But you have to be a parent in order to know the differences between good and bad discipline.