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    To date early or not

    I have heard horror stories from friends who have kids ( my older friends) about discussions they have with their kids. in your opinion would you prefer to have kids or teens now a days date as early as 14 or later .

    Me i didn't have this discussion with my folks since school kept me busy and was to into school and started dating at 18, but if i was asked i mean depends i guess if i have this discussion with my kid a few years from now i want him to concentrate on his priorities ( school first) and if his grades are good why not.

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    Re: To date early or not

    honestly i dont know if i met the boy she is dating or met the girl hes dating then i would maybe consider lettin him/her date them really depends on if there responale enough for me to trust them that much at only 14 or so

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    Re: To date early or not

    if i move i might, but with the way things quickly turn into parenting 101 as young as 12 around here, no. Most of them are couples wanting babies after a couple of months dating.
    Id rather it start when their about 16 and can get a job, So if a baby comes.
    I believe in the whole trust issue, its just the other kids and peer pressure im more worried about. Alot of my friends had kids early because its the thing to do after dating a couple of months, or accidents.

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    Re: To date early or not

    I would say that dating early is nothing to be afraid of, as long as your brought your kid up right.

    it is a good way for the child to find what they want in the opposite/same sex, and will make it easier for you as the parent to accept their choice.

    However, talk with the child first, as dating early is no problem, but anything more serious than that can become one very quickly.
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    Re: To date early or not

    I don't know. I AM a parent.... and.... I am stumped.

    I think every situation envolving children is unique. Every child is unique. So I suppose it would depend mostly on the situation. How mature my kid is. If I did allow it, it would be under harsh supervision... I probably wouldn't make it pleasent. I know I would really like to meet the girl (I have two boys). Because one of my bigger fears is my sons being young fathers.

    Now, dont take this as me saying I'm cool with kids being sexually active. I just know that there is only so much a parent can control.

    Being a mom at a pretty early age myself(18 when I got pregnant). I know that alot of responsibility falls on the young woman shoulders. I can teach my sons to use protection. But its really up to them weather they enforce it. And SHE would need to be the one taking birth control. And in the event of an unexpected pregnancy it would be the girl and her family that would have the biggest burden to bear. Not that it SHOULD be that way, but thats how it is.
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    Re: To date early or not

    well i don't think i would let my kids date until they were at least 16-17 becuase they are a little more responsible at that age
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    Re: Too date early or not

    Not before 16. First because it's a religious belief but I can't disagree with the reason. Teens who start dating young are more likely to to be sexually active and to have children at younger ages. Since that makes it difficult to get the education necessary to be able to support a family you increase their chances of being low income/poor and struggle financially their entire life.

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    Re: Too date early or not

    Quote Originally Posted by Arrianna View Post
    Not before 16. First because it's a religious belief but I can't disagree with the reason. Teens who start dating young are more likely to to be sexually active and to have children at younger ages. Since that makes it difficult to get the education necessary to be able to support a family you increase their chances of being low income/poor and struggle financially their entire life.



    If you did a good job raising them Arrianna, letting them date doesn't mean they will go out and have sex. Also watch out, if they have somebody they have a crush on, love, or think they like, they will find a way to be together and date in secret. A lot of times the ones who get pregnant come from strict parents.




    Now a days some kids want to date at 11 or 12, and it would be fine with me, with conditions. Which would be when they date, its chaperoned. Which wouldn't be a problem because kids at that age basically just want to hang out with each other.


    When their about 14 or 15, i would let them start dating fully, if we have trust in our parent/child relationship. I mean dating is learning how to be with the opposite sex, Its part of growing up.

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