Disposable Family

You don't have to communicate to them, just don't bother doing anything that would anger them more, what's the point?

it's not going to prove anything if you treat them like crap aswell, it gives them more of a reason to treat you like crap.

Well, I guess I should just stop argueing against you, I have absolutely nothing more to say...
The truth about that scenario:

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...senceless things like your mom being mad because came out as a boy not a girl.

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is that it actually worked itself out in time, so I guess it's sometimes better to just turn the other cheek.

I guess that means i win lol j/k j/k j/k

I can totally understand why you would want to do something, or treat them bad, it's really upsetting and it can hurt especially when you aren't in the wrong, I've been in that situation so many times, not that scenario that you stated but, in a situation when they thought I'd did something, but I knew I hadn't.

I have a situation similar to this one. I just moved to this state and I really don't like my relatives here. My mother doesn't like my father's relatives either. Both of us talk about how stupid they are. I refuse to visit them no matter what. I think this is the first time I didn't enjoy thanksgiving with any family. I used to argue with my father alot about seeing them. But now he understands that I have no intention of visiting them for whatever reason.

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Originally Posted by HolderOfTheDarkChalice

i agree i mean why let family that has shunned you make you feel
guilty? i have the same problem pretty much but i just go on with life
not letting them bother me. infact its been years since i have seen
a few family members i thought i was close with but i didn't let bother
me because if they wanted to talk i am here if not there loss. you should
think the same way.

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This is really good advice. I agree that if they really want a relationship with me they should call me. Im not going to go where Im not wanted and Im Not going to feel guilty about it. Thnks

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Originally Posted by MistressMorgan

Lately I have been having a lot of problems with my family. I dont relate very well to them and they to me. My grandmother accused me of stealing from her (which I would never do, and have no reason to) and has disowned me. She was never very affectionate and I find myself not really thinking about her or missing her. None of the rest of my family tried to patch things up or even ask my side of the story. In fact they havnt even called me and its been a year. So my question is do you have "disposable" family? and is it ok to just disassociate yourself from them? I mean dont get me wrong I do have family that really love and care about me but I feel like some are indifferent to the existance of our relationship. What do you think?

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Good question. For awhile I thought almost my entire family to be disposable, I moved away from my mom, twin and little brother for three years and hardly ever called them or payed any attention to them. Well after three years I realized that was very, very wrong to do becuase they never really did anything to me to make me feel bad towards them. So in about a month I'm moving back in with them. We all have a very good realationship with eachother so I think I'll have a nice reception. But, right now I'm living with my dad, and he seems very much disposable to me. He hardly pays any attention to me at all and absolutely despises doing anything that I might enjoy or buying anything that I need like haircuts - that's right, he gripes about buying me haircuts but he was allot of money (I've estimated between 60-70K a year) which is why when I move back to my moms house he's going to get to pay my mom 1200$ a month for me and my twin. And I have been promised a share in it :smile: .

The only family I have is my mother and my grandparents (her parents)

I hardly ever see my grandparents, but when they do come over they're generally happy to see me.

My mom has had emotional issues ever since me dad left her for Charlet, and she's a bit clingy, so I know that she doesn't dislike me becaue she throughs a fit everytime I leave the house without her.

So, since I am wanted by my family, no I do not have a 'Disposable Family.'

Hey, none of you have to love somebody just because he/she is your family member. In this world we are living now, situations gets very unpredictable and perhaps out of control.

I love my family members not because they are related to me but because they have been very nice to me and I have no reason to hate them but to love them in lieu.

I also have family members but they are now over because I know my lines and where to stand. My father cheated on my mother. He has done a lot of bad things to us. He ruined both my brother's and my childhood. It used to be helluva painful and whenever people reminded shit about he is my father, I couldn't be bothered. Because by doing so, I loose a lot and suffer for him.
What more, he telling me to do things and remind me how oblige I am to him for is my father never worked well on me.

I crashed a chair on his back when I was 15 and he's suffering the pain now. That's what he get for hitting my mother. He said to me before how I could do this to my own father. I couldn't be bothered. He then disowned me as his daughter. (^^) *yay*

There's a long story to that later on but I shall not tell it.

Straight to the point finally...
Anything can be disposable including the bond of a strong family. Maybe we lost that religious practice of respecting your family members. But in this age, everyone takes advantages of each other countless whether they are dearest to one another. We just have to accept that even family members can resolve this low to get what they want. (u_u)
Sad aint it?

sorry for the long wind -bag of diarhea. I'm done. Please ignore this post ^^

@those who were disposed from their families.
May sweet heaven have mercy on you, strays.