Sazzy

I don't think i would ever change the decisions i made either. I made them for a reason and it shows my personality. So if changed it then i would be changing my self and thats never a good thing.l

Yeah some events just naturally happen and those are the events that matter to me most. If i tried to control everything then i don't think i would ever be happy.

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Master_badger

Maybe. Sometimes i think on it. When you can't do an action and after that you see that action maybe be hazardous you understad. This one: a lot of years ago, when i was on the medicine school i cannot take my bus to the school. I was too late and need to stay to another bus, 15 minutes after first. When i was arrived to my school, one of two squares back, the bus crash with another bus and died a lot of people. If i was take that bus maybe i was died on that accident. But no, i take the next, and now i'm posting on AO forums reading all of you answers. Many things happened for a reason.

Good thread, congratulations to the poster.

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MistressMorgan

I absolutely believe in fate. My husband and I would not have gotten together without a long series of carefully placed events including the suicide of a close friend.

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Sazzy

I get a few events like that where i look back and realise, if i hadn't done what i did then i wouldn't be where i am now. Like if i really did get into the Uni i wanted, then i wouldn't have know all my greatest friends at my University where i am now. Those friends helped me through so much and and i wouldn't have got through my uni work if it wasn't for their support.

Oh and thank you for the comment about the thread.

I understand what you mean but for me i would have to thank my brother who was a member of this and got me into anime. if i hadn't of logged onto AO then i wouldn't have met my bf.

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Arrianna

I have discussed this before and I've found the biggest problem in discussing fate is coming up with an generally accepted definition since it can mean many things to many people. To some fate is just a way of saying "things happen for a reason". To others it's a belief that removes all responsibility for themselves. "After all if it has already been determined what will happen it doesn't matter what I do." And for another it is simply a series of choices that people face in their life determined by a supreme being to assist us to grow.

I believe we face 3 types of occurrences in our lives.

1. The consequences of others actions.
2. The consequences of our own actions.
3. The trials and events created specifically for each individual.

Only the third comes directly from "fate".

If you believe that we cannot effect your own destiny then those become something that everything wrong in your life can be blamed on with no personal responsibility. I have a very low opinion of people who take this easy way out.

If you believe that we still retain our choice, our free will, then those same incidents become opportunities for person growth. A way to be tempered in the fire and become stronger.


I have a friend who had been through more then I would ever wish on anyone look at me and tell me, "everyone has trials. If we bear them well we grow and learn. If we don't we just get beat up."

I figure if anyone would know she would.

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exderz

i belive in stuff that i see with my eyes....i can't stand people who belive something that they have never seen before.....or its just my problem.

Priestess Angel

I kind of go both ways. I think everyone in their own way dictates what path they will take by their own actions. But I also think that there are certain people you are bound to meet and events that you will inevitably deal with.

Also, going on a more philosophical note on the subject, when you look back at how everything has fallen in place in your life or how something or some event has formed the person that you are today you can't help but think that this was somehow planned. How it was all meant to be.

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JefferyXie

There are things that happen on this world for a reason which is usually caused by humans and not "fate".For example,why did Hussein get executed?Because of what he did was killing over a hundred people and that he ruled like a dictator and what he did was unforgivable in the eyes of the Americans.Why do people succeed in life?Because they focus on the goal of their desire and don't stop till they achieve what they want.These are things that are caused by the choice and the attitudes of humans.There are other things however happen and nobody knows why.That is where the word "fate" come in.Like why are there earthquakes and tsunamis that destroy cities and the country?Is it divine punishment or just some natural disaster because of the earth's atmosphere?We don't know for sure.

Nympho

I believe in fate. But i don't believe that fate is in absolute control over my entire day to day life. I believe fate when it comes to meeting people at the right time. But not that my life is fate. I dont believe my life is preplanned. But that there are points in my life where i'm supposed to be....make sense?

Like i met my husband by fate. I dated his friend, who left to go back to his country. Then i didnt see my now husband till one day on my way to school i missed my bus. And walking back to my house, he passed by in his car and recognized me. He turned around, gave me a ride to school. And we've been together ever since. Thats fate.

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my answer is...yes.because we will never know what will happen to us in the future...some people think that this is god's fault but come to think of it...maybe god let this happen to allow something to happen good in the nearby future...

Sazzy

Awww that is so cool. I do love when the outcome of situations gives you real happiness and something you could never wish for.

I do agree with people who say its both. I suppose it can't really be one or the other but a mixture but with a more dominant side. It really does depend on the person and their beliefs. As i said before we are all individuals and we don't all have the same reasons for making a big decision as we all have our own way with dealing with certain things.

those three points sum up really well. really if you look at fate in a bigger context then really its not all about the decisions you your self makes but also with input from the decisions that someone else's make and it just happens that sometimes those two sides collide and it may sometimes work really well or it could have a horrible outcome.

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