you should be with the one you love because you love them not because you can have them.
I'd have to agree with Rave_Grip on this one. The problem with finding your soulmate is that sometimes you get so into looking for the perfect person that you miss the one that your susposed to be with. They tend to be someone that you may have already met or someone that you know very well. You just never looked at them that way before. But I truly believe that no one is ment to be alone, if they are it is their own doing or they don't want to accept the person that wants to be with them. So their soulmate is out there, they just don't want them.
That is a really good question and one I have been thinking about lately. I wonder if I will ever find someone interested in me at all. I have never really had a boyfriend and the only two guys who ever showed any interest in me, the very first day we were together they would go a little too far and because I could never be that way, I told them it might not work out. Maybe I was over reacting but I am not a girl that wants guys interested in me because they hope I will put out, when I won't! I mean I think I have my head on straight and can be fun to hang out with but it just seems like guys aren't very interested in me at all. I guess I still have a lot of time but I still think about it. I would like to think there was someone out there for everyone but then again not everyone finds that person.
i believe that everyone has a soul mate, it just depends on if they find them or not. i honestly think that they dont normally find them until they are after about 35..:D:
I don't really think were are all destined to have ONE soulmate. I think that every relationship takes place (or doesnt take place), for a reason. So everyone you've ever been with... You were "meant to be" with them, at the time you were together. I believe every realtionship, and every interaction has a purpose. Even if its something small.
And those of us who are alone. I feel that is meant to be as well. Sometimes people need to learn more, or balance themselves before they can take on a lover.
Some people prefer to be alone.
And there are the many who think a companion will "complete" them. I sincerely think people who feel that way need to love themselves more. And realize.... Life isn't about feeling complete... there should always be a hunger in us. A desire for something more. That is what makes the journey of life worth traveling.
Although you said that there are the many who think a companion will "complete" them, to me, no matter how happy or fullfilled you are, a companion in your life is also quite something to look forward for.
Nobody in this world is alone. Everyone is inter-connected in one way or another, it is us who choose it to be this way.Quote:
And those of us who are alone. I feel that is meant to be as well.
Everything we do or / and feel is a state of mind. Choosing or being alone is a state of mind as well.
Change our thinking, is what we need.
The rest I agree with.
I ~hate~ the notion of predestination... if our entire lives are mapped out for us before we're born then morality, responsiblity and free thought count for nothing. Luckily, predestination seems just as unlikely as it is unfair.
There is no such thing as a "soul mate"... anyone you meet is someone you could love: if only you chose to. And they could love you back... if they wanted to. Finding the "right" match is just a matter of choosing to love someone who wants to love you back.
I agree there Tsurara, soul mates are just our way of dealing with the issue of the right person for us. granted that you could love someone with all your heart and they give the same love back, but there are the ones that break you, when they leave.
and the fact is that people love one another to the extent that it seems like they are soul mates.
and as for the ones that live to be alone...
they should look to the future, no matter how alone you feel, there will be someone to love you and that require your love in return.