Thread: Friends with benefits?

It's a very touchy topic at best. Let me think, um....I agree with it on some grounds. If they were together then broke up and then started to be friends with benefits, I just think that's just stupid. I mean, if you just wanted to fool around from the beginning, go ahead.

But females tend to go the wrong path of the f-w-b agreement. They get attached, well, most of them. They believe it's somewhat of a real relationship and when the male decides to end it, the female counterpart gets upset and feels used.

With men, they don't get attached as fast but it sometimes accure. But to my experience, if they knew a friend who's a girl whom would like to fool around with them, they aren't going to stop them, lol. I mean, come on. Think about it.

I've been in one f-w-b situation. It was fun while it lasted. It was 3 months. Not a lot. But, we're still cool. We knew each other for two years before we started. But we were lovey dovey like. Hold hands and junk. It was wierd at first but it was hilarious towards the end. We were voted greatest hook up by our friends, lol.

Here's some advise. Make sure at the end you'll still be friends. Because if you don't, it's going to get real awkward, I promise you.

Originally Posted by ice viper

I don't know if this topic has been done in the past or not. But I would like to hear the opinions of the members of AO. Do you agree with this topic or not? You must explain your reason why. If you are all wondering ehy I choose this topic please pm me and I will give you this information. Some examples: What if they were lovers? What if they statred as friends?

"Friends with benefits" ruins perfectly good friendships. If all you ever see someone as is a sex object, you demote them to the same level as a thing (instead of a person). If you do end up getting married, you have to worry about telling your children how you met . . . "Why, yes, Billy. Your mother and I were f***-buddies for a good three years before I realized that she was the girl for me." You know? It leaves emotional scars. I just think it's a very bad ideas. Perhaps I'm simply a romantic . . .

Wow, well said. You being a romantic makes me look perverted. But, I am. I guess you're right about the telling your kids how you met. But there's a loop in your statement. To be friends with benefits you have to be friends first, so you could just tell your kid, "Why, yes Billy. Your mother and I were friends for a while before I realized that she was the girl for me." It works out the same way.

There are changes in a friendship after and sometimes it ruins a good friendship, I've seen it happen.

this is indeed a touchy subject, huh?

i donno, it kinda depends on the situation. just messing around with someone can end up comming back to bite you in the ass...

I, personally, don' like the idea. There r too many ppl out there who fool around wit other ppl's emotions and get them hurt. This is jus' one of the ways that some of those ppl use ta do exactly that. I jus' don' think anythin' good can come from "Friends with Benifits."

Besides, what if you break up? That'll be awkward. Then, of course, it would be another "friend," then another, then another. Before you know it, you're in the hospital dying of five communicable diseases or something. Yuck.

I have to say that all of your opinions are coming to me loud and clear. But what if one of your friends did a blind date on you. Then you ended up staying with that person from the blind date oh... lets say for about four years and in that time got engaged. Then for some unknown reason you ended that relationship and started this one and want to get out of it, but can't. What now?