I dunno... on one hand I see your point about gay bars, I guess it would be hard to fish out who's gay in a "regular" bar. I mean... I still am against the concept of it... because I wish they could just go where everyone else goes. But with homophobic pricks out there, I guess a safer place for gay courting is neccesary.
I still feel like many homosexuals make too big a deal about there own sexuality. And Im speaking about this from experience of knowing many gay people.
I should retract my statement where I said gays are basically asking to be judged... That was actually really wrong of me and I apologize to anyone that may have offended. because thats not REALLY how I feel. I really disslike homophobic people as much as I disslike racists. I wish we lived n a world where descrimination didn't exsist.
However, I still think its futile to draw attention to a certian aspect of oneself THAT SHOULD BE MORE PRIVATE, and then get upset when the attention is bad.
I dont think public displays of affection between 2 gay people should be frowned apon any more than it is between 2 straight people. Do I notice two gay people holding hands... yeah. But not because I dont accept it. (when you're lonely you notice everyone holding hands) In fact... If any PDA is in my view... I am likely to watch. You wouldn't get freaky in public if you didn't want spectators.
Christmas is not a sexual thing... maybe an anniversary can end up being sexual... but is celebrating a partenership... not celebrating what it is you like to do in the bedroom. I see no reason why gay people shouldnt celebrate religious holidays or anniversarys. But why is there a parade for sexual preferences? I've never gone to a doggy style parade. I take pride in oral sex... but there are no bumper stickers for that. "Head Pride" no one would even get it. Would anyone even consider a highschool for students with foot fetishes? I mean, I am sure If I walked around telling people "I like it best with my legs above my head" I might get descriminated against. someone would probably judge me. But I dont tell people that..... because its private. (until now)Is it only okay for us to celebrate Christmas and anniversaries and whatnot, but not okay for gays to celebrate who they are? Why must they hide it? That doesn't seem fair to me, now does it?