Mr. K

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Spymonk

Yes is is more difficult to teach your children the ways u have been teached because the distrations is so much more ,cellphones ,internet,anime tv showsand all that so yeah punishing kids for their wrong doings aswell see how many kids take the parents to court these days....

If u are driven by diccipline u will loose the fight...
Todays kids in the majority is house trained and not like in the past where kids played outside and created their own games to day everything is handed on a silver platter.

One example
How many kids today have dictionaries - If u wanna know something u Google it,if u want it discussed u start a new thread
So the interaction and swapping of opinions between parent and child has gone down by at least 50 %..
995 of thing kids know today is taught by some else than the parent...Parent are too busy these day making money or not.....

My opinion alone.

Xorr

as a I'm a bit older but not a parent yet (thank god) but I think that parents are letting TV and the Internet raise their kids more than they are. they should ban cell phones in schools, do research and projects offline to teach how to use books, but I still blame the parents, you need to spend more time with your kids, don't censor what they see but explain to them whats going on, these are the things that would have helped me when I was younger. your letting other people the media and just random other things raise your children, when the whole time you should be doing it.

on the part of you think your son is on drugs, don't be so hopeful like my parents were, search his stuff, talk to him about it, but don't be an ass.

HolderOfTheDarkChalice

i agree and just becuase you did drigs as a kid dont let that make you think your a hypocrite because your not you have been there and you experince is very helpfull to them you can tell them the bad side of drugs and the like.
dont let your own back ground stop you from helping your kids. they may thing your boaring or annoying but its better than giving them rosses on a beautifull sunday morning with a tear running down your cheek.

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mellow maromi

Dont search his stuff. Thats an invasion of privacy and you will probably find things that are not drugs, but are not pleasant either. It kids feel like shit to find out there parents found something that they werent supposed to find. It makes kids hate themselves and want to kill themselves. Dont search through his things, its his privacy and his personal space. And by doing so your violating it. Its his buisness what he has and you better respect that. As for your daughter, even she has sex, if her and her partner uses a condom every time she has a less chance of getting a std. Its better to have sex and still be safe than to make her feel like crap and be suicidal...

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dude101

i might be sticking up for some of the parents.. but when has there ever been a handbook that tells u how to be a perfect parent?.. how do u know what is good for ur kids?...

sure we can critise our or other parents all we want but hey, they are only human and they are only making what they are suposed to do as they go. and come on there's goin to be mistakes, and sure they're will be misunderstanding and mistrust and all the other things that come with it.

and sure with kids being able to access much more 'material' parenting has become more complicated. k today we see a 2 income earning family (both parents work), and this does seem to create a large gap between children the there parents, and parents can't keep an eye on there kids all the time.

but hinding solvents, searching through bedrooms, and doin all these other things is kinda insulting for the children. its pretty much sayin " i don't trust u" right in their faces... and when kids don't trust their parents and vis versa, thats when all hope of comunication collaspses.

but when u get onto the subject about kids wanting to kill themselves, doin drugs, etc. well honestly i don't think we can entirely blame the parents, i mean most kids know what they are doin to themselves, how dangerous it is (unless under some kind of influence such as drugs, pear pressure, etc) but they still do it. they do it cause they choose to do it, and in most cases they only do it to have some kind of 'fun' but they chose to do it so they need to take on some of the responcibility themselves.

but i have to admit that most parents aren't aware of what we kids do, all they can ever really do is keep an eye out when they are doin the laundary (checking pockets for any weed we might of forgoten to take out). but the most important thing a parent should do is always know how their child feels, what they think of this world of our and most imporantly respect our decisions (more of a teenage thing).

xAngevil Envyx

I'm not yet a parent but here's my comment:
If you have a child/children like that who just wastes his money on such nonsense,I'll just reduce his allowance & I'll be more strict!
If he doesn't listen & his condition is CRITICAL its better to take him to a rehabilitation center & there he CAN change...for a better life!
Isn't it right? :3

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mellow maromi

But its his money. An allowance is pay for helping keep the house clean. Once you give him that money, its his. He earned it. He can spend it on what ever wants. Because its his. If he spends it on food who cares. Its his money, If he spends it on games, its his money, what ever. You should advise him not to spend it on drugs, but you cant control his every move. If he wants to throw his life away then what ever. Hell learn one day that he made a bad choice. If its just weed, then it doesnt really matter weeds harmless. forget about it.

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