divine_punishment

No offense, but it sounds like your mother had a bad marriage.

The thing is, marriage is sacred. It should not be entered willy-nilly, as it so often is nowadays. If you find a good husband, he will take care of you and you will love him in return.

Having kids outside of wedlock is not only a sin, but not healthy for the familial relationship. There's less of a commitment on the man's part to stay; he might walk away and leave you a single mother. You don't want that.

If you marry the right guy, it will go well. Not all the time . . . your spouse is just as human as you are . . . but you will learn to love each other more than injury.

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atomik_sprout

I've never been married, so I can't speak from experience, BUT I CAN give my opinion, based from my relationship experience (almost got married 3 times).

I feel like that marriage isn't for a man to run a woman's life. In fact, marriage is supposed to be a 50-50% thing. It's all about give and take... Compromise, to be specific. A man should have to do just as much as a woman in a married relationship. A woman may be better in the kitchen, but is it her "place"? Hellz no!! Tell that dude to make you a pie! LOL.

In fact, from what I've been hearing from a lot of my friends and co-workers who are married is that it's the exact opposite from what your mom tells you. I hear that the woman commands the vessel, wears the pants, runs the show; whatever you wanna call it. I've seen men go from happy-go-lucky individuals to miserable, depressed slaves to thier wives. No joke!

But that's where compatability comes in to play. If you're gonna spend the rest of your life with someone, if you're gonna share experiences with that person; you should make sure that you are 100% compatible with that person. Every relationship has arguments and quarrels, but it's a matter of quantity that counts. If you fight more than you say "I love you," you totally need a divorce, or shouldn't get involved with that person at all. If your arguments are to the degree that you have to call the police or leave the house for more than 5 days, you have no business in that relationship.

I can go on about this, but I'll be a good boy and keep my mouth closed for a while. ^_^

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