Marry someone from another religion or an atheist - Page 4

*Lasura* · Dec 18, 2007, 03:03 PM

Well when you are in front of a decision- your family or your lover, sometimes you might get too scared to let go of your family, I completely understand it... If you put yourself in such a situation, a decision for your family and not your love, seems quite normal. I can put myself there quite easily...

As you yourself said, Kirikami, love is what it is, and people don't easily figt love. I know I easily give in for love, not thinking about how it will come out. It has only gotten me in trouble, but still... that is all a part of my life, and that is only making my life more colorful...
Also, at the start of a relationship, people don't think much about how it might turn out, what the problems might be, and people can not think about all those things...

*atomik_sprout* · Dec 18, 2007, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by notsogoth1

isnt marriage a religious thing, in that sence then you should marry within your own religion. Personally though marriage is more of the ultimate commitment you can make to someone and if you're like me then no religion shouldnt even be a factor in choosing who you want to be with

Actually, marriage is a legal thing. You don't HAVE to be married by a preist/pastor/reverend--hell you don't have to be married in a church!

Friggin' ELVIS can preach and do vows or whatever, and you're married; so long as you have legal documentation. You can go to city hall--or any courthouse--and get a marriage licsense (which you need before you get married in a church even) and then once you're married you get a certificate which legally binds you to that person until either one of you dies or one of you just simply says, "Screw this!"

Billum256 · Dec 19, 2007, 06:13 AM

If your strong in the religion then you will obviously want to marry someone from the same religion. If your more relaxed about it and not hardcore then you should be fine.

abc · Jan 11, 2008, 12:16 PM

to me it doesnt matter if my child's finacee is in relgion or an atheist
Its what inside the persons heart and mind that matters.
What would i tell my child?
"sorry dear you cant marry because i found out that he/she is an atheist or they're not into our relgion?"
Think about it, doesnt that reason sound rather retarded and shallow?

*lebasiara* · Jan 12, 2008, 12:02 AM

Well I think that the love relationships are very personal... and unless one of my kid's (whenever I have one) life is on risk or she/he is getting involved with one of those kind of ppl that "I will bomb myself to get to heaven and be with God or kill myself to get to the paradise" I'd say go ahead... but religion is a big issue and it can cause sommmmmmmmmmme big differences on the relatioship...
Because we humans react and live according to our habits and beliefs... so... if she/he wants a peaceful relationship I'd rather have them to marry someone of the same beliefs.... but at last is up to him/her... and it is them who are going to have the good or bad consecuences of their choice...

*dark1angel* · Jan 12, 2008, 03:59 PM

Having a kid that just falls in love from another religion or an atheist is probably going to be a normal kinda of thing, because around any part of the country can choose who to marry and also depending if they care for each other.
There is certain things that being married by another religion can result sometimes just critizing but not being threaten into any type of situation that involves killing for being wed into another persons Religion if i had a child and he or she chooses their own love it would be alrite with me as long as they truly care for each other which only means to me.

TheZorch · Jan 18, 2008, 10:52 PM

I do not trust organized religion at all. I used to be in the midst of the fundamentalist Christian world and what I saw there scared the heck out of me. I thought I had gone back in time to Nazi Germany and was attending an SS rally. Well, I got out of it really quick but the same thing I've seen there is everywhere you might find a Christian church. Its absolutely frightening what they're teaching our kids.

As to the question in the topic. I don't know what I'd do. I don't believe in interfering in true love for any reason, so its a difficult question.

elvin · Jan 18, 2008, 11:12 PM

marry someone from another religon?oh no! i can't accept it cause i've been staying in a boardin school since i'm 13 and now i really hate these kind of life... for the whole school, i'm the only one chinese and the others are --la-s. some ppl say i look like --la-s. i feel sad bout it too sometimes. so i study in college now and i'm staying in an apartment.... better than the hostel i stay last time.. however, i stop connecting with those ppl since i leave that school. and that makes me feel better. so i will not accept my children to marry someone from the religon that i dun really accept it. however, its not my life, its theirs... what can i do if they really love each other.

nickhoge · Jan 20, 2008, 12:25 PM

Well, I know this happens a lot in every culture there is (probably). People often are haunted their way out of a relationship by their own parents which is because of the religion of the partner of their child.

There should not be any boundaries whatsoever concerning this matter. Think about what you're doing to the (love)life of your child, you're totally making decisions for him/her that should be taken by them!

I myself am currently in a relationship with a girl who has a diffrent religion, but I'm very thankful that I am accepted in this family. I'm starting to feel more at home everyday and even that there are differences in religion or culture, it's all possible to live with eachother!

As long as there is love, it should be left alone! That's what I think

Corvus · Jan 20, 2008, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by nickhoge

Well, I know this happens a lot in every culture there is (probably). People often are haunted their way out of a relationship by their own parents which is because of the religion of the partner of their child.

There should not be any boundaries whatsoever concerning this matter. Think about what you're doing to the (love)life of your child, you're totally making decisions for him/her that should be taken by them!

I myself am currently in a relationship with a girl who has a diffrent religion, but I'm very thankful that I am accepted in this family. I'm starting to feel more at home everyday and even that there are differences in religion or culture, it's all possible to live with eachother!

As long as there is love, it should be left alone! That's what I think

It's simple but it makes sense ... why should people needlessy divide themselves from the people that they can get along with (let alone the people that they love enough to live with) because of relegion? They shouldn't. People need to learn to separate themselves from their differences instead of eachother regardless. If it is love, then that's all the more reason to forget differences.

animechick · Jan 23, 2008, 09:20 AM

i go both ways on this
i dated a guy for two years that was a jehovah witness and i am nondem.
that pretty much wrecked our life because his parents didnt approve

on the other hand love is love

im not sure on this one.

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Lasura Angelic Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: In a Demon's Arms Posts: 1,872 Thanks: 56 Thanked 35 Times in 32 Posts Credits: 49,619	Re: Marry someone from another religion or an atheist Well when you are in front of a decision- your family or your lover, sometimes you might get too scared to let go of your family, I completely understand it... If you put yourself in such a situation, a decision for your family and not your love, seems quite normal. I can put myself there quite easily... As you yourself said, Kirikami, love is what it is, and people don't easily figt love. I know I easily give in for love, not thinking about how it will come out. It has only gotten me in trouble, but still... that is all a part of my life, and that is only making my life more colorful... Also, at the start of a relationship, people don't think much about how it might turn out, what the problems might be, and people can not think about all those things... __________________ My recommended fanfic: "Dreamer" by Scourge
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TheZorch Newbie Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 34 Thanks: 1 Thanked 7 Times in 6 Posts Credits: 2,638	Re: Marry someone from another religion or an atheist I do not trust organized religion at all. I used to be in the midst of the fundamentalist Christian world and what I saw there scared the heck out of me. I thought I had gone back in time to Nazi Germany and was attending an SS rally. Well, I got out of it really quick but the same thing I've seen there is everywhere you might find a Christian church. Its absolutely frightening what they're teaching our kids. As to the question in the topic. I don't know what I'd do. I don't believe in interfering in true love for any reason, so its a difficult question. __________________ Final Fantasy XI Info Katsuhito - Male Hume Beastmaster/White Mage Rank 5 Citizen of Bastok Server - Asura
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elvin Newbie Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Strawberry Village Posts: 99 Thanks: 9 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts Credits: 4,857	Re: Marry someone from another religion or an atheist marry someone from another religon?oh no! i can't accept it cause i've been staying in a boardin school since i'm 13 and now i really hate these kind of life... for the whole school, i'm the only one chinese and the others are --la-s. some ppl say i look like --la-s. i feel sad bout it too sometimes. so i study in college now and i'm staying in an apartment.... better than the hostel i stay last time.. however, i stop connecting with those ppl since i leave that school. and that makes me feel better. so i will not accept my children to marry someone from the religon that i dun really accept it. however, its not my life, its theirs... what can i do if they really love each other. __________________ ::::...Chery_Strawbery...::::
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nickhoge Newbie Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 44 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Credits: 2,691	Re: Marry someone from another religion or an atheist Well, I know this happens a lot in every culture there is (probably). People often are haunted their way out of a relationship by their own parents which is because of the religion of the partner of their child. There should not be any boundaries whatsoever concerning this matter. Think about what you're doing to the (love)life of your child, you're totally making decisions for him/her that should be taken by them! I myself am currently in a relationship with a girl who has a diffrent religion, but I'm very thankful that I am accepted in this family. I'm starting to feel more at home everyday and even that there are differences in religion or culture, it's all possible to live with eachother! As long as there is love, it should be left alone! That's what I think __________________
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