Why Mr. Right Can’t Find You: The surprising answers that will change your life – and his
Why Mr. Right Can't Find You is not a book about dating, but about mating. It takes a bold, original look at the whole question of how to find a lifetime partner. That is one of the most important challenges that we all face, yet many people leave it to chance and even believe that that is what they should do. This book gets down to the first principles about how to search for and choose a lifetime partner, that are ignored by most "relationship" books. Instead of obsessing on the troubled relationship you're in now (or used to be in), it says: How about a different approach, how about finding the right guy?
Why Mr. Right Can't Find You lays bare the myths that discourage many women from taking charge of their own mating quest, exposes those myths and then shoots them down; without doing that you can't be free to pursue this new proactive approach successfully. [A few examples: the myth of "the one and only man destined for you", the myth that baggage is bad, the myth that you need a perfect man as opposed to a man who is perfect for you, the myth that all men prefer the same body types, etc. . .all of which cluster around the central myth, that inaction is best. Many of these myths are listed in the Introduction, and they are discussed all through the book.]
The gist of the book is this: there is a man out there right now, looking for a lifetime partner, and the woman he wants is you. He's right for you because he already likes the way you are right now, physically and mentally – and because he is already what you want. So throw off the myths that keep you from trying, and focus on the fact that right now, the man you want is out there. When you do that, the picture clears and you can see what his problem is, why he can't find you. It's very simple: he isn't getting enough help from you. Armed with this knowledge, you can take steps to make it much easier for his quest – and yours – to succeed. This book is a guide to those steps.