Thread: Parents and Kids

Originally Posted by lebasiara

Yes, but as I said, some parents do that cos they feel that is the best. PLus out there society has insecure parents that are dissapointed of themselves and they want their kids to be proud of themselves and they want to be for once proud of one thing they have "done."

Once again, an example of "living the wrong life". They did bad in their lives, so they push their children into becoming and doing things that they couldn't. Most times it's to better the child, but in some unfortunate cases, it's just the parent being selfish, not really getting over their own life.

Originally Posted by The White Wolf

Once again, an example of "living the wrong life". They did bad in their lives, so they push their children into becoming and doing things that they couldn't. Most times it's to better the child, but in some unfortunate cases, it's just the parent being selfish, not really getting over their own life.

That's why i NEVER said all parents I said SOME or MOST... I know there are out there bad intentions....

Well I AM a mother. And, I don't know about everyone elses kids... But I can say from my OWN exprerience, that I dont have to force my kids to do anything. I encourage them, and I help them better establish the things I can tell they are NATRUALLY interested in.

An observant parent will see a childs natrual interest and potential with certain activities. Because many children will express their own interests, you just have to keep your eyes open.
And if the kid DOES sit and watch basketball on TV, it wouldnt hurt to bring them to a park with a basketball hoop, and see what they can\want to do.

Forcing a kid to do a sports or play music wrong but somtimes it can also be a good thing.
For intense what if the kid watches tv al day and dosn,t go outside to play then forcing him/her to play or to go an a sport isnt a bad thing, also if your kid is the victi of a bully forcing the your kid to go an selfdefence is a very good idee.
There are also some sports that teaches children and peopol very useful things like swiming and self defence.
Also forcing a to somthing like cleaning up his room or to go to school taeches them a great deal not only do they learn to clean there room but also that somthings just have to be done.

I think everyone has some good points here. I believe parents should push their kids to do cirtain things IE: play outside, read, learn manners and so forth. In that same setting their are things like some others have said that shouldn't be pushed onto kids just because. I wasn't pushed into doing anything I didn't like really, (except for growing up in a horrible house and thats another topic) so I got to learn everything on my own, now I won't say thats always a good thing because I got into a lot of trouble sometimes. My dad always warned me by telling me what was right and what was wrong but he also told me that I had to learn everything for myself no matter what he said so I did. Had I been forced into being a more of a school person I might be in a different place now but I doubt i would be nearly as street smart or have the common sense I have now. As it was said earlier their are cirtain things that kids should be somewhat forced into when they are young but as they grow the responsibility should slowly weigh onto them as to what they should and should not do. Just my opinion, take it or leave it.

Originally Posted by Arrianna

First of all it isn't butting into their kids life it's called being a parent. Secondly if your parent wants you to then yes, you should do it. If you try it and don't like it you can quit but how can you know if you don't try? As long as a parent isn't trying to live out a fantasy through their kids then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Indeed all said here is so right.

When the Kid comes of Age he/she will make there own choice but untill then. The Parent is to help there kids get strong, and into new things. ^^;

True, but sometimes the parent doesn't know what's good for the kid. The parent get's the kid into things that they think the kid'll like, or they themselves like. Just because the dad of the child used to be the captain of his school football team way back when, doesn't mean that his little boy is going to like football. Yes, he can introduce the sport to his child, but if the child doesn't seem to like it, that is where the parent doesn't know when to stop or keep on going. Sometimes the parent gets too into the situation and too into their own past, that they forget that it isn't their life. It's their child's. That's why there are so many teens and children who are soccer players, ballerinas, cheerleaders... and do not enjoy it one bit. Some of the times it's the parent who forces the kid into doing things.

It's one thing to encourage a child, it's another thing to force them to do it.