Akura13

Okay, I've been wondering this for a while now. Why is it that a, for example, a 15 year old can't go out with a 13 year old, but a 33 year old can go out with a 42 year old eh? I mean, my mama was 36 and my dad was 44!! So why is that?

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aceman67

Difference between a 15 year old going out with a 13 year old and a 33 year old going out with a 42 year old is two simple things: 1) The latter example being that they are both consenting adults, 2) having said that they are adults, the second thing is emotional and mental maturity.

The two kids (15 and 13 year olds are kids) are not Adults, nor do they have the life experiences that an adult would have to give them the amount of maturity to handle any kind of close personal relationship.

Age does not matter when it comes to the affairs of the heart, but only when you have the maturity to handle that kind of situation.

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gren

Because 13 and 15 year olds aren't considered adults. Actually, it depends on the laws of the state you're in; in fact, I don't think any state wouldn't allow minors with a two year or less age difference to date. The problem would come in with, say, a 13 or 15 year old dating someone 18 years or older.

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Akura13

But in some countries a sensei can marry a student (which is messed up) so yeah that's why should kids just wait then?

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iluvmyloser

yes i agree it mostly depends on what your state says although i dont see why it matters?♥~*The Princess*~♥

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ILikeApples5520

Its mostly because of the growing differences.

A 13 and a 15 yr old look different because they are at different stages of puberty.

A 36 and a 44 yr. old have stopped growing, so one does not look THAT much older than the other, though of course there will be some differences.

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Soshi Kitai

o_o Well exactly, in SOME COUNTRIES, as you said.


The problem is mental maturity... 13 and 15 year olds can be YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS AND YEARS apart in mental maturity. Though sometimes, that ain't true... sometimes, the 15 year old is just as immature as the 13 year old...

... it's rarely the case vice versa.


... it makes sense when:
14 ♥ 15
17 ♥ 19
20 ♥ 28
30 ♥ 45
56 ♥ 68
90 ♥ 120 etc...

But that's because the mental states SHOULD be the same... (well, I'm not so sure about the 20 ♥ 28.... 28-year-olds usually have a different mindset due to their fear of being 30)

13 is still a really young teen, where some of their minds still find strength and greatness of being a true teen.... kinda like when an immature kid turns 18... they find a lot of power from such a feat......... you just really want to shake your head and walk away.



And of course.... parental acceptance. You still live under your parent's house, and must still follow their rules.

If you wanna love em, then keep it quiet... or run away. Both work.



>_> I suggest on the "keep it quiet" is the better solution. *winks at Abu*

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Abu Dhabi

i see nothing wrong with age difference as long as their love and commintment to each other is genuine. Teenagers are really known for their commitment, but then again, people in their mid life aren't really looking for love most times (thinking, "i don't want to die alone")...

so, i think as long as they both understand what they're promising and are loyal to each other, then i think any age is fine. But, if they are minors (whatever that age may be), they're parents still have a right to say something about it. Whether the kids listen or not, is ultimately up to them...

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Mechazawa

I'm not following you here, a 15 year old and a 13 year old should be able to go out. The problems will happen when the 15 year old turns 18 and at that smae time the 13 year old will only be 16.

However, each childs parents the 13 and of 15 year old have the final say as to when or if at all there teenagers are aloud to date. (wheather that be one another or whom ever)

If you are 18 or older you can date someone thats 110 if you like or do almost anything you couldn't as a minor, because as soon as your 18 that magical thing happens and its called being tried as an adult ^_^.

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Peach_follows

Let me speak for myself. I had crushes on 15 and even 16 year olds when I was 13. But at 13, nothing you do in the love department should be taken seriously (not this day and age). I know some people think 13 is close to marrying age. But it seems to me, people dont seem to grasp the concept of marriage even in their 20's, 30's, 40's ect.

Now, currently I have a crush on a 36 year old... I'm 24...
12 years... sounds like alot,right? Not to me. We are both single, into the same things, I have 2 children... he only has one. And because hes young at heart, hes just now gaining the desire to settle down. And I couldn't imagine being with someone my age, because the majority of men in their 20's arent really ready to settle down... even when they THINK they are. Thats just MY opinon tho

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Joe Mage

As far as the issue of minors are concerned, they can' really b taken too seriously. I've seen a few relationships between minors of varyin' ages have their relationship blossom inta marriage when they got older, but most jus' broke up and moved on wit their lives. As far as older people, I have an aunt and uncle who have been married for around 35 years and they're 10 years apart in age. I hear people say things like "What would they find in common?" and things like that 'cause of the gap in their ages, but I found some people wit even bigger age gaps who had alotta things in common. I don' think that age is a factor in considering affairs of the heart. Although, I would prefer bein' wit someone closer ta my own age, that doesn' mean I would turn down goin' out wit someone who has a genuine interest in me, even if there's an age gap.

Age is not necessarily a determining factor in maturity, I've encountered many immature 60 year olds and many mature 14 year olds. There r some people who can handle the perils in life and some who can', it all depends on the mindset of the indiviual.

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