Okay. I'm the evil bitch or whatever he wants to call me. And I'm not stalking, he showed me the thread to prove that he's right and I'm wrong about everything, as usual. We've fussed about all of this crap over & over and he's been fussing at me about it since November but it doesn't matter what I say... I've not even been saying I'm right about everything like he has, I'm just tired of fussing about all of this 7 months later.
I was saying it was none of your business because we weren't together at the time. Just like you were saying it was none of my business with you and the girl that you lied about. And you didn't "leave" because of that. We got back together not long after it and I went and stayed with you at your mom's. We broke up again after that and you barely spoke to me for awhile and that's when you started seeing the other girl.
You keep saying that I keep trying to be right about everything when you're the one that keeps bringing it all up and fussing about it. We've argued all of this I don't know how many times and I've apologized for things and I don't agree with a lot of the things you say but it seems like you want to be right on everything. I did say I would stay with you and I went down there to stay with you and I got pregnant. Your grandfather started fussing about me being there and I didn't want to stay there with that going on, that was making me feel like shit and you were saying that could cause stress and a miscarriage and stuff then. -_- You even said you didn't want me staying there when it happened and you brought me home without fussing. You didn't start fussing until I had the miscarriage. I don't think it was right of you to expect me to stay there with that happening, nor do I think it was right of you to have said that I should've "shut the **** up and dealt with it". It seems like you just want me to go through crap to make us even or something. I wasn't only thinking of myself when I decided not to stay there, I was thinking of the baby. You say you stood up to your grandfather everytime he started fussing about me but it kept happening. He didn't want me there in his house and I didn't belong there.
All you've been doing is fussing at me since I got pregnant. I didn't think staying there was good for the baby. You kept saying I'm stressed all the time anyways and that situation wasn't helping. You were fine with me leaving until the miscarriage. If you think everything's my fault and I'm such a terrible person like you've been saying, then don't talk to me, don't have anything else to do with me. I've told you I'd leave you alone. Even when I called you and wanted you back and I didn't even know you were with someone, you told me on the phone that you were and I said I was sorry for calling but you still wanted to talk to me. You told me you didn't want to be with her and were telling me things about her you didn't like and all of this crap and then after that when you start fussing at me you start holding that against me, too. Saying that you left her for me and you shouldn't have. That was your decision and it's not fair to hold that against me. But yeah, with the way things have been, you shouldn't have and I'm sorry that I ever started talking to you to begin with. For your sake, anyways. You've made it perfectly clear that all I've ever done is put you through shit and ruined your life. All you've been doing lately is calling me a bitch and saying how I'm wrong on everything so I'm not going to bother you anymore and you no longer have anything to worry about :P
Xanosuke2 I am going to give some blunt advice and say that you should call it quits with this woman. First the bad history is already set. Frankly I don't know why you left the other one for her. You should not have taken her back in my opinion. Besides she may want to keep the distance so she can keep something up with someone else. After all you were her second choice. In my opinion end this, now. But that is just my opinion and hey if you don't want it don't ask.
He wasn't second choice. The reason I would break up with him so many times before was always from the fussing. I met him online and he started wanting me to move in with him like 2 months later, I wasn't ready for that. And he's still trying to get me to move in with him now and I don't want to when we're still fussing about all of this and when he's calling me the things he is. That's pretty obvious how everything's going to be living together. And there's not someone else :P if I had someone else I don't think I'd be carrying on a relationship with someone that far away that I fuss with every freaking day over this stuff that happened last year. We never solve anything.
Xanosuke2, in light of the recent facts I still say end this soon. Find someone who wants to make you the first thing, not the next thing.
Wow. You both have such harsh feelings towards one another, it sounds like the trust is gone. Honestly it seems like you guys would be better off seeing other people and starting over.
But anyways, I'm sorry my drama got spilled completely into this, never even planned on her jumping on here and saying all of this ^^; but yeah, my question for this debate has still been standing and haven't been answered other than a round about advice :P
Is it wrong to ask someone to go through some sort of pain for the sake of yourself knowing that the person had treated you badly in the past?
My thoughts on a relationship s that not only do you give things to her (such as driving and other things ( that you be a one way relationship)). I think relationship is a two sided experience. She should also drive out to see you along with your driving to see her. i think that depending on what your or her family says you and her should just ignore sertain things about what they say. If she truly loves you then she can learn to deal with you family. relationships are about sacrifice, change, and giving AND receving.
I just read some of your answers to other peoples answers and i didnt know she had slept with other guys. That "in my book" is a call for and instant end to a relationship. I find sleeping with other people while your in a relationship to be the worst thing that someone can do. If she hadnt done that then i would say to stay with her and try to work things out but with this new light to me i would say to dump her. I consider it that if my g/f or fiance slept around then i could never trust them for as long as i lived.