Sex Before Marriage

!The White Wolf · Apr 23, 2007, 06:54 PM

Do you think it is all right to have sex before marriage? Or do you think it's in the hands of the individual? Do you think it should be based on the morals and principles of the couple/individual, or should they respect their parent's wishes?

I've come across this topic many times with friends and family, so I wish to hear what you guys think.

*There was a thread like this once before, but seeing as how we cannot revive old threads..

*Tbaism* · Apr 23, 2007, 06:59 PM

Do you think it is all right to have sex before marriage? - Yes

Or do you think it's in the hands of the individual? - Absolutely.

Do you think it should be based on the morals and principles of the couple/individual? - What? Umm, having sex without thinking about that is kinda like ..rape isn't it? Can't force that Jack!

Should they respect their parent's wishes? - It would be nice if people listened, but it is up to the individual whether or not they choose to abide by that.

I think it is a person's choice and right. Follow your path and what not, do what you want.

Shu · Apr 23, 2007, 07:13 PM

its up to the couple. their parents have nothing to do with it, although they probably do in many cases.

AngelFlow · Apr 23, 2007, 07:15 PM

I think its ok to have sex before marriage but if its not ok with your parents then you shouldn't do it. I mean I guess its more right to have sex when your married but thats not me. Its really the persons choice.

Hassun · Apr 23, 2007, 07:20 PM

First of all, that poll is a bit black and white if you ask me.
Second, I don't think many teenagers ask their parents if they're allowed to have sex with their partner. Evading the issue altogether.

But if you do want to put it in a system then I say the parents decide if you're still a minor and you decide if you are an adult. Which means 18 or more years old.

*divine_punishment* · Apr 23, 2007, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by The White Wolf

Do you think it is all right to have sex before marriage? Or do you think it's in the hands of the individual? Do you think it should be based on the morals and principles of the couple/individual, or should they respect their parent's wishes?

Sex has nothing to do with what a parent wishes. Sex before marriage is sex without a commitment. If there is no commitment, what is to prevent one of the partners from sleeping with someone else. My reasons:

1. It's not moral. I will not expound on that.

2. It's not safe. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24? Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted diseases.

3. It's not emotionally stabilizing. Sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more.

4. Is is recreation or re-creation? Yes, sex is pleasurable, but it's meant for us to propogate the species, not pass the hours.

!The White Wolf · Apr 23, 2007, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Hassun"

First of all, that poll is a bit black and white if you ask me.
Second, I don't think many teenagers ask their parents if they're allowed to have sex with their partner. Evading the issue altogether.

But if you do want to put it in a system then I say the parents decide if you're still a minor and you decide if you are an adult. Which means 18 or more years old.

I happen to like black and white, Hassun. But if you're one for color, then I suppose I'll try harder next time.

On a personal note, I'm waiting until marriage to have sex. I believe that a person's one and only true love should take their other's entire mind, body,and soul. I think sex is a beautiful thing when it's with the one you love, and it shouldn't be something to be taken so lightly. But many people have different morals on this sort of thing. So I say it's up to the individual. But if their parents make it clear that sex should not be something their kid should be doing.. then the child should respect their parents' wishes.

And if you're one that likes to 'go with the flow', then hey. It's your life. But where I stand in this debate is that it should be something shared by people who are in love. A 'magical' moment, so to speak. But not many Fairy Tales come true nowadays.

*lebasiara* · Apr 23, 2007, 07:45 PM

I agree with divine_punishment... even tho I made the wrong decision and because it was without commitment he is not with me and I am not with him.Praise God neither of us had HIV whatsoever.... but about the emotional issue... meeeeeeeeeeeeeen took me a looooooooooooooooong time to get over it..and yet there are secuels from the bad desicion that i took... hey I was "an adult" when I made the desicion... I know it was wrong.... and the worst part is that even I wish to go back and never have done it... I cannot... I just had to learn to live with that.

Daniel Lee Ward · Apr 23, 2007, 08:36 PM

Wow it seems that more think premarital sex alright it sounds like that todays society must be teaching teens that its ok but it isn't and, people wonder why aids an other sexualy trasmitted dieases and abortions are so high now this is rather funny O'well .
But serously I don't care I just wanted to add my two cents in.

pink_hana · Apr 23, 2007, 08:40 PM

uhm,...for me, in my religion it's better to have marital sex than premarital because we need God's blessing first...it is very important especially when your a roman catholic...hehe, but if there would be an experience or a time that the one you loved loves you the most but then your or his time's nearly ending or very limited...i'd give him everything before he's gone or me because our love's eternal but then our time's very limited...just like Fushigi Yuugi or Aya shi no ceres but in those animes, they still had more time of spending together, they just thought they don't have it...lol...>.<

Daniel Lee Ward · Apr 23, 2007, 08:47 PM

Really thats it good to see that someone holds the morals of God up in ther beleaves as well.

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Tbaism Devoted Otaku Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 642 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 2,826	Re: Sex Before Marriage Do you think it is all right to have sex before marriage? - Yes Or do you think it's in the hands of the individual? - Absolutely. Do you think it should be based on the morals and principles of the couple/individual? - What? Umm, having sex without thinking about that is kinda like ..rape isn't it? Can't force that Jack! Should they respect their parent's wishes? - It would be nice if people listened, but it is up to the individual whether or not they choose to abide by that. I think it is a person's choice and right. Follow your path and what not, do what you want.
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Hassun shittle Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Pretiacruento Posts: 7,103 Thanks: 0 Thanked 46 Times in 40 Posts Credits: 26,870	Re: Sex Before Marriage First of all, that poll is a bit black and white if you ask me. Second, I don't think many teenagers ask their parents if they're allowed to have sex with their partner. Evading the issue altogether. But if you do want to put it in a system then I say the parents decide if you're still a minor and you decide if you are an adult. Which means 18 or more years old. __________________ Gorecreeps inc.
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lebasiara Live and feel the music Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Here and there... Posts: 1,003 Thanks: 11 Thanked 19 Times in 17 Posts Credits: 16,979	Re: Sex Before Marriage I agree with divine_punishment... even tho I made the wrong decision and because it was without commitment he is not with me and I am not with him.Praise God neither of us had HIV whatsoever.... but about the emotional issue... meeeeeeeeeeeeeen took me a looooooooooooooooong time to get over it..and yet there are secuels from the bad desicion that i took... hey I was "an adult" when I made the desicion... I know it was wrong.... and the worst part is that even I wish to go back and never have done it... I cannot... I just had to learn to live with that. __________________ Awesome sig Yasmine ^_^ I appreciate it thank you very much ^_^ $C:\Documents and Settings\MARA\My Documents\My Pictures\Anime room\sigs\music_sig1 mia ^_^.jpg$ I wish for a hundred dollar bill rain...
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Daniel Lee Ward Newbie Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: United Posts: 8 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 110	Re: Sex Before Marriage Wow it seems that more think premarital sex alright it sounds like that todays society must be teaching teens that its ok but it isn't and, people wonder why aids an other sexualy trasmitted dieases and abortions are so high now this is rather funny O'well . But serously I don't care I just wanted to add my two cents in. __________________ Lord of War
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pink_hana Newbie Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: ningen world Posts: 89 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 2,449	Re: Sex Before Marriage uhm,...for me, in my religion it's better to have marital sex than premarital because we need God's blessing first...it is very important especially when your a roman catholic...hehe, but if there would be an experience or a time that the one you loved loves you the most but then your or his time's nearly ending or very limited...i'd give him everything before he's gone or me because our love's eternal but then our time's very limited...just like Fushigi Yuugi or Aya shi no ceres but in those animes, they still had more time of spending together, they just thought they don't have it...lol...>.< __________________
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Daniel Lee Ward Newbie Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: United Posts: 8 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 110	Re: Sex Before Marriage Really thats it good to see that someone holds the morals of God up in ther beleaves as well. __________________ Lord of War
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