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mystical shadow angel

I guess if the marriage is within the same cultural/ethic group then the married couple, as well as their families, can better relate to one another in terms of customs and traditions. That is, if they're religious. It'd make it easier for the two families to integrate and accept each other.

However, I think in today's society, there are less people caught up in cultural traditions and all, especially in western societies. Nowadays I see more and more married couples of mixed ethnicity with completely different cultural backgrounds.

I think with today's technology, with the television and novels and magazines/newspapers so widespread, it's a lot easier for people to become familiar with other cultures and religions, and to become more acceptive of another's traditions. I'm pretty sure that a hundred years ago, people weren't as savvy and understanding as today. Other cultures and religions would have been alien to them, so rejection was almost a given.

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Arukih

In my opinion I think it helps!!! Altought it may turns into a bored relationshipand i dont want that for me!! my exbf where a Italian guy, very different from me and from all my friends, very religious,(im not religious at all) good lookin and with style(im not that pretty i cant say got lot of style), didnt like to go to the club (I go all most every saturday), was really louder(In Portugal the most louder place bisides clubs and concerts are the markets. we are not a louder ppl ), with bad habits at table(which were truly offencive to my parents) and so on, i mean not all Italian guys are like that well he was but above of all that was my love for him...all I have to say about it is love always wins

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Namida Goddess

Naturally I think that having similar marriage customs/beliefs could make the transition easier for the entire family but I don't think that religion or ethnic backgrounds should cause any problems between two people wanting to get married.

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Lasura

Sheesh Ray... You should eddit that post a bit I almost couldn'tunderstand what you mean ^^ (>.< sorry)

Well there are some cases when differences are a good thing. There are things in witch one person must balance the other, like temper- if one is agressive, the other one should be calm. Also different opinions in things makes the life a bit more interesting- you have something to tak about ^^

On the other hand there are some cases when it's better if the poeple have similar opinions and views. Like, when it comes to music- it's hard if one likes clasic music and the other one listens only to rap, or the same religion- if both of the persons are strictly believing something else, it will be hard to get to a common decision or something...

So, my suggestion would just be living together for quite a while, being very open and finding out if they fit together before deciding on a marrige.

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fireandice

That could go either way. While it helps to have somethings in commom, it is not required. If it is someone that you truly love but have nothing in common with you can always find common ground somewhere. If you can't then it wouldn't help either way. On one side you, if you did have things in common, then you would always have something to do together. But if you didn't, then you could use it as a fun way to learn new stuff and see if you really do like it. As for the marriage part of it, well I would have to agree with Lasura on this, you should live together/be together for a while before you really jump into marriage.

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divine_punishment

I think that following tradition is very important. I mean, the couple can add their own personal touches, but I like tradition. When/If I get married, I intend it to be in a Catholic church, bride in white and groom in a tux . . . that sort of thing, the type of thing you would see regardless of the century.

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aceman67

I firmly belive that there is someone out there for everyone, one only needs to look, sometimes wait, or even go through a couple marriages before they find that person.

My parents are one such couple. My mom was married twice, the first to someone who wound up being a spouse abuser (Father of my two older brothers), the second to an alcoholic child abuser (Me and my sister's father). It wasn't until I was six that my mom found my step father, and now, 16 years later, they're still happily married.

As for their similarities, Both come from military families (My mom had her father and her two brothers serve in the US armed forces), and my step father being a soldier himself, which gave them steadfast stubbornness, they both have the same religious beliefs, they both think alike (Even before they started dating, they finished each others sentences, its quite freaky cause they still do it and the half conversations are weird.), They both love food (One loves to cook it [mom], and the other loves to eat it [dad]).

You have to remember, when you marry someone, you're going to be around that person for (hopefully) upwards to 40 to 60 years or even longer. If the two people involved don't have something in common or similar, the chances of the relationship lasting is kinda slim.

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Starspirit

with todays society its been mix with a lot of new varieties because of technology..
i think personality comes pretty big on this part, especially getting along...
i mean a lot of people are starting to amp more on that then anything.
maybe i'm not being specific but ya'll with experience know what i mean!.. >.<

anywho, on my part, i am native & my bf is caucasion...traditions, custom & wat not...
wasn't a big role in the relationship, it was getting along...&! the difference of each other's role in life made a lot of things interesting.

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