Zeikku Shadow

In my opinion, and from everything I see in the world around us, it doesn't necessarily matter.

You see it all the time couples that are so much alike, they seem so suited and (forgive the cliché) meant for each other, splitting up. Everyone says they don't get it. If two people like them couldn't make it...

However, some couples who are alike find strength and happiness only in someone who is like them.

Then on the other hand.

Two people that couldn't possibly be more different if they tried, yet they stay together till death do them part. Always a couple, even when they are thousands of miles apart. Everyone keeps saying what does he/she see in the other. I give it a year at the most, before she/he sees the errors of their way, and they split. Yet year after year they're still going strong.

However, some time people who came together, because they found the differences fun, split once the newness wares of, and the differences are now a burden.

How can you explain such differences?

How can anyone point at one couple and say they will be together forever, because they couldn't possibly be more suited for each other. Same race, religious background, similar like & dislikes, same political views, same cultures, same wants and dreams for life, etc...

How can anyone point at one couple and say they will not be together forever, because they couldn't possibly be less suited for each other. Different race, different religious background, opposite like & dislikes, opposing political views, totally different cultures, different wants and dreams for life, etc...

I have found that compatibility does not guarantee true lasting love. It all depends on the individuals. Some people find that over time the things that brought them together are the very things that drive them apart. Also, people change and grow, not always for the better.

So much depends on chance, doesn't it? The chance that you will find, out of the millions of people in this world, the one that you will find true lasting love with. The chance that you connect, once you do find each other.

What about the people who find that one true lasting love, but tragedy strikes, and one is lost. Eventually the surviving one may try to find love again. They may even search for someone like the one they lost. Thinking, I found true lasting love with someone like her/him before, if I can just find someone like that again... Yet even with someone just like the other, it is not the same, because people aren't really the same.

Sometimes it's not your similarities that will keep you growing together, but your differences. It's finding out all those little things that make you different that keeps your attention enthralled. You're always learning something new about each other. Even after 50 years, suddenly one day, you learn your partner has never liked (for arguments sake, let's say...) black jelly beans. Wow! Fifty years together, and I never knew that about you, hmmmm....

Like I said, It's all in chance, and the individuals. With one person it may be the similarities that would keep you together, but with another person, the differences.

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