Sometimes forgiving and forgetting is hard especially if the memory is very traumatic. I get stuck remembering traumatic experiences and they haunt me forever. The only therapy I find is acknowledging the emotions, forgiving but not forgetting. I keep a diaries from the past five years and reread them. The hurt doesn't fully go away but it is very meaningful to me. I keep track of my progress and find great therapy in writing about what happened to me and reaching out against prejudice, racism, sexism, mean people being mean or small. I'll be forever scarred but scars heal to a diminutive size. I just take it day by day and write or draw or see my therapist. I also use visualization techniques by forcing my brain to only think of what I should be doing instead of walking down memory lane over and over. The brain follows what it beleives so a little self discipline and will power can turn the tide. I still get nagging thoughts when I'm painting so I just tell myself to relax and face my fears only to know there aren't any. Peace and good luck to you!
I too keep a dairy and sometimes re-read entries. but its mostly the fact that i tend to have a good all fashioned cry about and then tell my self "its over no need to dwell on it" So i suppose that's a touch of self discipline there. But its not like a big amount as i would like to where when i start to think about it, the dscipline side kicks in and over rules the painfull memories.
I'm really apathetic at times, I can forget people easily, relationships were usually never a problem for me, it's bad at times but good.
yeah i have been there but let me give you a word of advice life is like that sometimes happy sometimes sad but the most important thing to do even though it hurts you must move on learn from your experience...
The past will always haunt you, so all that you can do is know that you are growing stronger in the present to better tackle the future. Exercise does this for me. Regardless of how many people hurt me, knowing that I am pushing myself harder and faster than others, knowing that I am forcing myself to adapt to pain under physical exhaustion gives me the reassurance that I can adapt to any situation better than my adversaries.
I think if you realise that whats done is done and move on and learn from it then the better person you will be. Now this is what i have learnt.
Even if you get hurt by someone there will always be someone who would want to change the bad memories into good memories. Like replacing them to give you a freash start and get on with your life.