Mr. K

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my brother is kind of suffering about things he did, now he left AO only to think about what he did and done, and he has many reasons why he left which is suffering him from it, he loves ao and loves his friends but he has to get himself together if he doesnt want to suffer

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Mr. K

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Sazzy

Sometimes focusing on a bad thing can do some damage to your health. I mean i know that because i learnt it the hard way.

I know the dwelling is ok but just don't dwell on things for too long because it might lead to depression and that really isn't a good thing.

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!ShadowLance

Although, not regretting or worrying can be damaging as well. When I broke up with my girlfriend after 2 years, I was surprised how indifferent I was to the whole situation.

She has since then disappeared entirely to me.

Losing a great friend and even better lover is plenty damaging, even to a cold heart like my own. We have feelings for a reason. We as humans just need to realize when we're feeling too much, or not enough at all.

Sazzy

that is true we are human after all and we are able to feel a lot of emotion but sometimes i just get the annoying feeling that there is always some that i wish i never feel. But one that i got used to before over a year ago. That being rejection and loneliness. One that i feel that no one else should feel but only me. Now that those feelings have been rekindled so to speak its something i wish not to have.

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desxms

Sometimes forgiving and forgetting is hard especially if the memory is very traumatic. I get stuck remembering traumatic experiences and they haunt me forever. The only therapy I find is acknowledging the emotions, forgiving but not forgetting. I keep a diaries from the past five years and reread them. The hurt doesn't fully go away but it is very meaningful to me. I keep track of my progress and find great therapy in writing about what happened to me and reaching out against prejudice, racism, sexism, mean people being mean or small. I'll be forever scarred but scars heal to a diminutive size. I just take it day by day and write or draw or see my therapist. I also use visualization techniques by forcing my brain to only think of what I should be doing instead of walking down memory lane over and over. The brain follows what it beleives so a little self discipline and will power can turn the tide. I still get nagging thoughts when I'm painting so I just tell myself to relax and face my fears only to know there aren't any. Peace and good luck to you!

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Sazzy

I too keep a dairy and sometimes re-read entries. but its mostly the fact that i tend to have a good all fashioned cry about and then tell my self "its over no need to dwell on it" So i suppose that's a touch of self discipline there. But its not like a big amount as i would like to where when i start to think about it, the dscipline side kicks in and over rules the painfull memories.

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Nothingface

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dragonhead33

yeah i have been there but let me give you a word of advice life is like that sometimes happy sometimes sad but the most important thing to do even though it hurts you must move on learn from your experience...

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Toecutter

The past will always haunt you, so all that you can do is know that you are growing stronger in the present to better tackle the future. Exercise does this for me. Regardless of how many people hurt me, knowing that I am pushing myself harder and faster than others, knowing that I am forcing myself to adapt to pain under physical exhaustion gives me the reassurance that I can adapt to any situation better than my adversaries.

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