what would you do if (asked to lend).....

Ichigo_06 · Mar 12, 2008, 07:37 AM

Hey guys I was lounging about yesterday and one of my friend asked to look at my movies, he saw one he like and said "you should let me borrow that" the question I am getting with this is, What would you do if one of your friends saw something and said "You have to let me watch, borrow, that". What would your first responce be? With me I would be like,
"Is that a question or a statement" once they clarify that
if question
"I will think about it, but next time make it sound like a question"
if statement,
"No. you didn't ask."
What about you? would you do the same? would you do things differently? I am more likly to lend something out if I was asked first but if they just say You have to let me.... I am more prone to say no but that is me, it also depends on if I have hung out with the person enough to know what they would mean when they say it. my best friend at Job Corps is one of the few exeptions, only because I know how he is (room mates and at one point couldnt get away from him) lol anyways I am running out of things on topic right now so I end it by saying, ask and you most likely can, tell and you cant. that is how I work I would like to see what you guys would do in this type of situation.
Ichigo out~

Shadows1021 · Mar 12, 2008, 07:55 AM

Yeah i would say no even if i did hang out with the person seeing how most of my friends won't take good care of there own stuff what make me think they would take care of mines then again im to nice to say no.

AstralMage01 · Mar 12, 2008, 10:57 AM

Yeah I would do the same, but the only difference is if it was statement,& if he was close to me, I would refuse & say the same thing & tell him that next time if he wanted something he would better ask it in a good way & guide him.

*atomik_sprout* · Mar 12, 2008, 12:57 PM

It's a matter of preference, really. I probably would let the guy borrow whatever he wanted, depending on the person.

If it was one of my younger siblings, then I'd probably say somethin' like, "Ya gonna ask me first?" But, were it a close friend, I'd probably just let it slide. I say things like, "You should let me borrow this/that," all the time. I don't look at it as a demand, really; more of an informal way of asking.

*hellknight* · Mar 12, 2008, 01:06 PM

My own cousin likes to steal from me and when he asks me if he wants to borrow it, I keep saying no, and he still steals it, its annoying really. and he manages to lose it, I would say no if the next person wants to borrow any of my movies. I still have to see how they live or how clean their room is.

Orochimaru · Mar 12, 2008, 01:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ichigo_06

Hey guys I was lounging about yesterday and one of my friend asked to look at my movies, he saw one he like and said "you should let me borrow that" the question I am getting with this is, What would you do if one of your friends saw something and said "You have to let me watch, borrow, that". What would your first responce be? With me I would be like,
"Is that a question or a statement" once they clarify that
if question
"I will think about it, but next time make it sound like a question"
if statement,
"No. you didn't ask."
What about you? would you do the same? would you do things differently? I am more likly to lend something out if I was asked first but if they just say You have to let me.... I am more prone to say no but that is me, it also depends on if I have hung out with the person enough to know what they would mean when they say it. my best friend at Job Corps is one of the few exeptions, only because I know how he is (room mates and at one point couldnt get away from him) lol anyways I am running out of things on topic right now so I end it by saying, ask and you most likely can, tell and you cant. that is how I work I would like to see what you guys would do in this type of situation.
Ichigo out~

If it was me I would say no cause every time i let someone borrow my stuff i ether lose it to them or i get it back damaged.

Ichigo_06 · Mar 13, 2008, 07:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shadows1021

Yeah i would say no even if i did hang out with the person seeing how most of my friends won't take good care of there own stuff what make me think they would take care of mines then again im to nice to say no.

Well see some people cant be judged like that though, I mean look at me for example, I will take better care of other peoples stuff more them my own, if it was something of mine, I would probably throw it across the room (depending on what it is) if it was a friends or someone elses, I would walk it over there, also depending on if I can trust the person or not would determine if I ask for collateral just in case something happens to it, Ya know?

Luminous · Mar 13, 2008, 07:59 AM

I think I may have heard my friends say something like that, but I honestly don't mind. As atomik_sprout said, it's just sort of an informal way of asking. I think I'm probably guilty of doing it myself sometimes. I don't mind lending things out, since my friends usually take care of the stuff, and I usually borrow something from them at the same time, so that works too.

But no, I wouldn't mind that wording at all.

Ichigo_06 · Mar 13, 2008, 08:47 AM

I have said it but I try to ask like this....
"Would you mind if i borrow that?"
You know it is more direct, and it doesnt make it sound like you have no other options. I am one of those type of people who respect respect know what I mean?sure there are times I am rude but it is rare, anyways back on topic...... When someone said "you HAVE to..." it makes me feel like I am being forced into something. so I tend to do the opposite of what they say.

I am a rebel.

itachigirl · Mar 13, 2008, 08:01 PM

i wouldnt becuase i dont trust any my friends w/ my stuff. id just say either
"no sorry" or "hell no, remeber wht happened last time?"
if they keep bugging you just tell them all pitiful, "sorry, but i just wish you'd honor my wishes" or make up some false excuse..

Shadows1021 · Mar 13, 2008, 08:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by hellknight

My own cousin likes to steal from me and when he asks me if he wants to borrow it, I keep saying no, and he still steals it, its annoying really. and he manages to lose it, I would say no if the next person wants to borrow any of my movies. I still have to see how they live or how clean their room is.

i know the feeling T.T i miss my mp3 player -.-" i had to work hard for that money and even tho the guy was rich he's cheap...

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Ichigo_06 Dragonrider Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: On the back of my dragon escaping everything and ignoring the pain. Posts: 611 Thanks: 15 Thanked 10 Times in 10 Posts Credits: 4,702	what would you do if (asked to lend)..... Hey guys I was lounging about yesterday and one of my friend asked to look at my movies, he saw one he like and said "you should let me borrow that" the question I am getting with this is, What would you do if one of your friends saw something and said "You have to let me watch, borrow, that". What would your first responce be? With me I would be like, "Is that a question or a statement" once they clarify that if question "I will think about it, but next time make it sound like a question" if statement, "No. you didn't ask." What about you? would you do the same? would you do things differently? I am more likly to lend something out if I was asked first but if they just say You have to let me.... I am more prone to say no but that is me, it also depends on if I have hung out with the person enough to know what they would mean when they say it. my best friend at Job Corps is one of the few exeptions, only because I know how he is (room mates and at one point couldnt get away from him) lol anyways I am running out of things on topic right now so I end it by saying, ask and you most likely can, tell and you cant. that is how I work I would like to see what you guys would do in this type of situation. Ichigo out~ __________________ ナサンフォオツド Keep what you hold dear close for one day they may be gone forever! Make one person smile for it will continue to spread but if you make a frown that will spread as well.http://www.animeonline.net/gallery/s...0/ppuser/57173
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Shadows1021 Newbie Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Florida Posts: 13 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 501	Re: what would you do if..... Yeah i would say no even if i did hang out with the person seeing how most of my friends won't take good care of there own stuff what make me think they would take care of mines then again im to nice to say no. __________________ Im Bi and if you don't like it well XP to you too
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AstralMage01 Newbie Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: The old world Posts: 82 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Credits: 3,177	Re: what would you do if..... Yeah I would do the same, but the only difference is if it was statement,& if he was close to me, I would refuse & say the same thing & tell him that next time if he wanted something he would better ask it in a good way & guide him.
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atomik_sprout Ramen Addict Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Minneapolis, MN Posts: 2,028 Thanks: 43 Thanked 55 Times in 51 Posts Credits: 85,184	Re: what would you do if..... It's a matter of preference, really. I probably would let the guy borrow whatever he wanted, depending on the person. If it was one of my younger siblings, then I'd probably say somethin' like, "Ya gonna ask me first?" But, were it a close friend, I'd probably just let it slide. I say things like, "You should let me borrow this/that," all the time. I don't look at it as a demand, really; more of an informal way of asking. __________________ Kickin' it like a soccer player!
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hellknight Hell Enforcer Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: South dakota, Native American Posts: 1,435 Thanks: 2 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts Credits: 14,878	Re: what would you do if..... My own cousin likes to steal from me and when he asks me if he wants to borrow it, I keep saying no, and he still steals it, its annoying really. and he manages to lose it, I would say no if the next person wants to borrow any of my movies. I still have to see how they live or how clean their room is.
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Luminous Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: This is a User Title in disguise Posts: 231 Thanks: 0 Thanked 8 Times in 8 Posts Credits: 17,085	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... I think I may have heard my friends say something like that, but I honestly don't mind. As atomik_sprout said, it's just sort of an informal way of asking. I think I'm probably guilty of doing it myself sometimes. I don't mind lending things out, since my friends usually take care of the stuff, and I usually borrow something from them at the same time, so that works too. But no, I wouldn't mind that wording at all. __________________
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Ichigo_06 Dragonrider Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: On the back of my dragon escaping everything and ignoring the pain. Posts: 611 Thanks: 15 Thanked 10 Times in 10 Posts Credits: 4,702	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... I have said it but I try to ask like this.... "Would you mind if i borrow that?" You know it is more direct, and it doesnt make it sound like you have no other options. I am one of those type of people who respect respect know what I mean?sure there are times I am rude but it is rare, anyways back on topic...... When someone said "you HAVE to..." it makes me feel like I am being forced into something. so I tend to do the opposite of what they say. I am a rebel. __________________ ナサンフォオツド Keep what you hold dear close for one day they may be gone forever! Make one person smile for it will continue to spread but if you make a frown that will spread as well.http://www.animeonline.net/gallery/s...0/ppuser/57173
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itachigirl Diamond in the Rough Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: i could tell you, but id have to kill you Posts: 194 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Credits: 532	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... i wouldnt becuase i dont trust any my friends w/ my stuff. id just say either "no sorry" or "hell no, remeber wht happened last time?" if they keep bugging you just tell them all pitiful, "sorry, but i just wish you'd honor my wishes" or make up some false excuse.. __________________ Misa misa is the second kira!!
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