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abc · Mar 18, 2008, 11:20 AM

i hate...... more than anything when i lend somebody something for a couple hours.... then when ask back for it the first thing that comes out of thier mouths is
"I DONT KNOW"
WTF

i lent something to you trusting that you would take care of it as if you were its owner. i leave you with it for a couple of HOURS and then you have the guts to tell me that you dont know?
well that was then. now i only lend people things i know i can trust and i know that they would give it back to me
Anyho0 that's how it is,
dont lend someone anything and you know that that person isnt trustworthy and careless with your things.

tsurara · Mar 18, 2008, 03:19 PM

meh... while it may not be the most polite way to get the job done, once you've gotten to a certain point in a relationship, you do away with a lot of the pleasantries.

I have friends who invite themselves over, poke through my DVD and book shelves and simply take what they want (with the assumption that they'll bring it back). I do the same with theirs.

On the other hand, we frequently force loans... Just last week I was given a book and told "You have to read this and tell me what you think" while I gave a whole bag to my neighbor unsolicited.

So it really depends on your relationship.

*Soshi Kitai* · Mar 21, 2008, 01:30 AM

Depends... just a "friend"? Or a "true friend"?
Only got one true friend, and she comes over everyday... sooo, it's not like she can hide things from me.

If it's just a friend, I'd simply say "maybe later" or "nope"...
I trust a friend as I do a total stranger... because they're about the same to me.
I have to make sure that since this is MY STUFF they're talking about, they have to follow MY rules... and I have to make sure that I PROTECT MY STUFF from them...

I usually make a situation where they HAVE to return it to me, or a situation where I can keep an eye on them at all times...
...but if I owe them one, I'm more willing to let them borrow...

If you earned what you have fair and square:
Whether they asked nicely or command it from you, they have no right to "borrow" (take) it from you.

Unless of course you're filthy rich and most of your things are just shallow pleasures, then it's your duty to make others enjoy what you've "earned".

Ichigo_06 · Mar 22, 2008, 01:25 PM

Well see with me if I have spent say, 50 bucks on an anime series and someone wants to borrow it, I dont care if I can trust you completely or not, if your going to borrow it I am going to ask for collateral or something incase it is damaged or what not I have means to buy it back, however, if it is an anime I like watching, I way sure but I get to watch with ya, and my friends understand, it is called, protecting your investments. lol.

dude101 · Mar 23, 2008, 04:38 AM

Well for me it really depend on the history i've had with that person.

i mean with most of my close friends, where we've known each other for like most of our lives it's normal for us to go up to each other and pretty much say "yep i'm so borrowing this" or "Taxing this" and what not. Like right now i got like an entire stack of CD's that i've borrow for over a month now.

But if its someone that i don't know very well, or if i generally dis-like them. i would say no without a second thought. Also if i've lent them stuff in the past which they have never return u can pretty much guess what my answer would be.

But thats only for material objects and stuff. When it comes down to borrowing money, it's an entirely different story.

Ichigo_06 · Mar 23, 2008, 12:20 PM

Yeha if you have spent most of your life with one of your friends it would be easy to understand however some people (like myself) dont have child hood friends around so I have to do things the way I do them, so yeah I here ya though dude101 it is easy for childehood friends to just do that, you know how the other person is and know how they will treat your stuff.

cantsenditback · Mar 23, 2008, 02:15 PM

It all depend on which friend of mine is asking the question and how long I know that person

Frozen Rose · Mar 28, 2008, 01:05 PM

for me when they ask me for something i lead them what they need and that not bothering me but when they take that something and they didn't return it to me i get little mad especially when i need that thing .... =^_^=

P.R. Princess · Mar 28, 2008, 01:42 PM

mm well for my friends i am really close to them. so when they say "oh you have to let me watch it " im ok take it. cause i trust my friends. And my friends let me borrow stuff.
Now if it was someone that i didn't really know then i would question it.
But for the most part im just like wat ev. as long as i get it back. and i usually do after a week or weekend.

kyzr · Mar 28, 2008, 01:54 PM

My friend and I fall on either side of "demanding" to borrow something. Sometimes she'll politely ask if she can borrow something, and then some days she'll just pick up my bag and start goung through it, taking what she pleases. And I'm the same way.

And yeah, we volunteer loans a lot... we're always trading something.

I think if she said "you have to let me borrow this," it would be because she was really excited about it... but otherwise, I'd just say "no, I don't." [Then I'd give it to her anyway..]

*Lasura* · Apr 04, 2008, 09:09 AM

I would simply let him/her borrow that thing or movie or whatever. I'm one of the people who find it hard to say "No", especially if it's smething unimportant as a movie.
I am not Enlgish so I won't bug people with the "is that a question or a statement" thing unless I use it as a joke... I think it's a bit mean too...

Mar 18, 2008, 11:20 AM	#12 (permalink)
abc Newbie Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: In a place of bliss and love is blind Posts: 89 Thanks: 12 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts Credits: 4,542	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... i hate...... more than anything when i lend somebody something for a couple hours.... then when ask back for it the first thing that comes out of thier mouths is "I DONT KNOW" WTF i lent something to you trusting that you would take care of it as if you were its owner. i leave you with it for a couple of HOURS and then you have the guts to tell me that you dont know? well that was then. now i only lend people things i know i can trust and i know that they would give it back to me Anyho0 that's how it is, dont lend someone anything and you know that that person isnt trustworthy and careless with your things.
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tsurara anti-semantics Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Shikoku Posts: 1,312 Thanks: 5 Thanked 81 Times in 55 Posts Credits: 61,124	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... meh... while it may not be the most polite way to get the job done, once you've gotten to a certain point in a relationship, you do away with a lot of the pleasantries. I have friends who invite themselves over, poke through my DVD and book shelves and simply take what they want (with the assumption that they'll bring it back). I do the same with theirs. On the other hand, we frequently force loans... Just last week I was given a book and told "You have to read this and tell me what you think" while I gave a whole bag to my neighbor unsolicited. So it really depends on your relationship. __________________ <-RUNAWAYS-> <-lemonsquares? yay!-> <-Mmrs->
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Soshi Kitai For You... Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: The farther you go, the less you know. Posts: 1,245 Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 5 Posts Credits: 9,052	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... Depends... just a "friend"? Or a "true friend"? Only got one true friend, and she comes over everyday... sooo, it's not like she can hide things from me. If it's just a friend, I'd simply say "maybe later" or "nope"... I trust a friend as I do a total stranger... because they're about the same to me. I have to make sure that since this is MY STUFF they're talking about, they have to follow MY rules... and I have to make sure that I PROTECT MY STUFF from them... I usually make a situation where they HAVE to return it to me, or a situation where I can keep an eye on them at all times... ...but if I owe them one, I'm more willing to let them borrow... If you earned what you have fair and square: Whether they asked nicely or command it from you, they have no right to "borrow" (take) it from you. Unless of course you're filthy rich and most of your things are just shallow pleasures, then it's your duty to make others enjoy what you've "earned". __________________ Click here to Brawl! We had an awesome anniversary! Click here to join in on the fun!
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Ichigo_06 Dragonrider Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: On the back of my dragon escaping everything and ignoring the pain. Posts: 611 Thanks: 15 Thanked 10 Times in 10 Posts Credits: 4,713	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... Well see with me if I have spent say, 50 bucks on an anime series and someone wants to borrow it, I dont care if I can trust you completely or not, if your going to borrow it I am going to ask for collateral or something incase it is damaged or what not I have means to buy it back, however, if it is an anime I like watching, I way sure but I get to watch with ya, and my friends understand, it is called, protecting your investments. lol. __________________ ナサンフォオツド Keep what you hold dear close for one day they may be gone forever! Make one person smile for it will continue to spread but if you make a frown that will spread as well.http://www.animeonline.net/gallery/s...0/ppuser/57173
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dude101 Community Dude Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Australia, Newcastle Posts: 704 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Credits: 7,757	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... Well for me it really depend on the history i've had with that person. i mean with most of my close friends, where we've known each other for like most of our lives it's normal for us to go up to each other and pretty much say "yep i'm so borrowing this" or "Taxing this" and what not. Like right now i got like an entire stack of CD's that i've borrow for over a month now. But if its someone that i don't know very well, or if i generally dis-like them. i would say no without a second thought. Also if i've lent them stuff in the past which they have never return u can pretty much guess what my answer would be. But thats only for material objects and stuff. When it comes down to borrowing money, it's an entirely different story. __________________ .:Tribute to anime legend Hiro Shitaku :. Gone Tripping
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Ichigo_06 Dragonrider Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: On the back of my dragon escaping everything and ignoring the pain. Posts: 611 Thanks: 15 Thanked 10 Times in 10 Posts Credits: 4,713	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... Yeha if you have spent most of your life with one of your friends it would be easy to understand however some people (like myself) dont have child hood friends around so I have to do things the way I do them, so yeah I here ya though dude101 it is easy for childehood friends to just do that, you know how the other person is and know how they will treat your stuff. __________________ ナサンフォオツド Keep what you hold dear close for one day they may be gone forever! Make one person smile for it will continue to spread but if you make a frown that will spread as well.http://www.animeonline.net/gallery/s...0/ppuser/57173
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kyzr Newbie Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 26 Thanks: 6 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts Credits: 1,703	Re: what would you do if (asked to lend)..... My friend and I fall on either side of "demanding" to borrow something. Sometimes she'll politely ask if she can borrow something, and then some days she'll just pick up my bag and start goung through it, taking what she pleases. And I'm the same way. And yeah, we volunteer loans a lot... we're always trading something. I think if she said "you have to let me borrow this," it would be because she was really excited about it... but otherwise, I'd just say "no, I don't." [Then I'd give it to her anyway..] __________________ [Draw me a sheep!]
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