Thread: what would you do if (asked to lend).....

i wouldnt becuase i dont trust any my friends w/ my stuff. id just say either
"no sorry" or "hell no, remeber wht happened last time?"
if they keep bugging you just tell them all pitiful, "sorry, but i just wish you'd honor my wishes" or make up some false excuse..

Originally Posted by hellknight

My own cousin likes to steal from me and when he asks me if he wants to borrow it, I keep saying no, and he still steals it, its annoying really. and he manages to lose it, I would say no if the next person wants to borrow any of my movies. I still have to see how they live or how clean their room is.

i know the feeling T.T i miss my mp3 player -.-" i had to work hard for that money and even tho the guy was rich he's cheap...

i hate...... more than anything when i lend somebody something for a couple hours.... then when ask back for it the first thing that comes out of thier mouths is
"I DONT KNOW"
WTF
i lent something to you trusting that you would take care of it as if you were its owner. i leave you with it for a couple of HOURS and then you have the guts to tell me that you dont know?
well that was then. now i only lend people things i know i can trust and i know that they would give it back to me
Anyho0 that's how it is,
dont lend someone anything and you know that that person isnt trustworthy and careless with your things.

meh... while it may not be the most polite way to get the job done, once you've gotten to a certain point in a relationship, you do away with a lot of the pleasantries.

I have friends who invite themselves over, poke through my DVD and book shelves and simply take what they want (with the assumption that they'll bring it back). I do the same with theirs.

On the other hand, we frequently force loans... Just last week I was given a book and told "You have to read this and tell me what you think" while I gave a whole bag to my neighbor unsolicited.

So it really depends on your relationship.

Depends... just a "friend"? Or a "true friend"?
Only got one true friend, and she comes over everyday... sooo, it's not like she can hide things from me.

If it's just a friend, I'd simply say "maybe later" or "nope"...
I trust a friend as I do a total stranger... because they're about the same to me.
I have to make sure that since this is MY STUFF they're talking about, they have to follow MY rules... and I have to make sure that I PROTECT MY STUFF from them...

I usually make a situation where they HAVE to return it to me, or a situation where I can keep an eye on them at all times...
...but if I owe them one, I'm more willing to let them borrow...



If you earned what you have fair and square:
Whether they asked nicely or command it from you, they have no right to "borrow" (take) it from you.
Unless of course you're filthy rich and most of your things are just shallow pleasures, then it's your duty to make others enjoy what you've "earned".

Well see with me if I have spent say, 50 bucks on an anime series and someone wants to borrow it, I dont care if I can trust you completely or not, if your going to borrow it I am going to ask for collateral or something incase it is damaged or what not I have means to buy it back, however, if it is an anime I like watching, I way sure but I get to watch with ya, and my friends understand, it is called, protecting your investments. lol.

Well for me it really depend on the history i've had with that person.

i mean with most of my close friends, where we've known each other for like most of our lives it's normal for us to go up to each other and pretty much say "yep i'm so borrowing this" or "Taxing this" and what not. Like right now i got like an entire stack of CD's that i've borrow for over a month now.

But if its someone that i don't know very well, or if i generally dis-like them. i would say no without a second thought. Also if i've lent them stuff in the past which they have never return u can pretty much guess what my answer would be.

But thats only for material objects and stuff. When it comes down to borrowing money, it's an entirely different story.