There are people who dislike Neji really!? Wow, I haven't even met one but whatever. I love Neji cause for his powers and the way his fighting skills are. And to top it all off he'e hot haha.
But yeah, I agree you just have to see the other persons way of life and what he's been through. If you just look at it another way you would be able to understand a whole lot of other people. Neji said things like your destiny can't be changed and all that because thats how he was raised.