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Sounds like the series Maria Holic is right up your ally...
Maria Holic - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Also, the series "You're Under Arrest' has a cross-dressing male police officer who is more feminine then all the women officers on the staff... (and is probably the most positive presentation of a cross-dressing gay character in Anime/Manga...)
You're Under Arrest! (manga) - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia